I met her when I was at a professional mixer. She's 28, I'm 34. We both work in entertainment. She told me when we first met that she has just came back to the states and has a boyfriend abroad.

The next night I took her out, and had sex with her afterwards. It was very intense. The night after we hung out, and went back to my place again. The third night she got into a car accident. The fourth night I went to help her go car shopping. At the end of the night, she told me she didn't like the way I was behaving. I was getting emotionally attached. She said she didn't want to hurt me, and that we're just friends with benefits. We can cuddle, and I can continue texting her, but she was very clear about our status: We can have fun, nothing serious.

The week after I wrote her an e-mail that I needed time off to think about all this.

After a week or two we got back in contact. She asked if I was hungry, and I suggested a place to go. We kissed, and we got intimate again.

After two months of this, I am now extremely attached emotionally. She seems to be getting attached as well. She introduced me to her sister. We talk about relationship matters, and what she is looking for in a relationship. She tells me constantly that she has issues with her boyfriend. However, she has also very clearly stated she is not looking for a lover, nor a relationship -- and that she is not ready for one.

I constantly think about her, and don't know what to do. I really, really like her. I think she and I are a great fit. Our astrology sun and moon signs, miraculously, says that we are perfect for each other. Not that that matters. But we do have a lot in common.

She told me yesterday that she can get sex anywhere -- from anyone -- it's not a big deal to her as long as she gets it. But in a relationship she has to be the number one girl in the guy's life. She also went into detail about he sex life with her current boyfriend.

I am going through a lot of emotional turmoil trying to reconcile all these facts. We clearly have a very strong connection but I don't understand how she can completely block off her feelings for me. She said several times that she is very stubborn, and once she says something she will do whatever it takes to follow through. She lost a lover once like this before, she said.

What should I do?

Leave her alone! It seems to me that she is using you.

I feel bad for her boyfriend! You say she's not looking for a lover or relationship? You ARE a lover.

None of this is good nor will it end good. It is up to YOU to stop this behavior. It's not healthy.

In the end it will be you AND her boyfriend who gets hurt. All of these lies... What good is it?

You have to ask yourself this, if she cheats on her boyfriend, what makes you think she wouldn't on you?

She claims she just needs sex, that she can get it any where from any one? Classy I must say...

Do you think so low of yourself to allow someone like her to disrespect you? That's what she's doing...

I would wash my hands of this if I were you.

Move on. Good luck.

Unless you want to continue to be her sex toy, leave her alone.

Yeah, I suppose you're right. It's not a good feeling and I am losing self-confidence and my mind is scattered. I can't concentrate on my work.

We had a pretty long talk yesterday and she said that her boyfriend is coming back June 30. She told me her plans to break up with him. She reiterated she has no romantic feelings for me, and is not attached to me like I am to her. Then we went back to her place and we had sex again. I told her this makes me want her more and she just said, "sorry."

We have an agreement that we will be friends in the long term future. I told her that when her boyfriend comes back, I'll need to step away completely. She'll need time to grieve as well. And it'll take me 3 months before we can truly be friends, like she wants. (She has said that she has another 'friend with benefits' who does not get emotionally attached. She hinted that is what she is expecting me to do.)

I don't have the courage or the willpower to cut her off. I still think that if I keep having sex with her she will get emotionally attached to me, even though I know that is not going to happen. I'm having a really really tough time forgetting about her, and moving forward. What is the best way to handle this?

Harsh alert!
You stay completely away from her. Not even friends. Stop having sex with her. You are acting like you're her bi*ch. Stop allowing yourself to being used. She has told you sex is all she wants, you are not going to make her want you. You are an option, not a priority. She already has another sex toy. You need to grow a pair and walk away from her Yesterday!

Ok then. Cold turkey it is. I'll do this before June 30.

Been in your shoes my friend, it's way too easy to be put under a woman's spell.

This girl is toxic. Forget about a relationship and forget about being her friend. It's clear she has no regard for anyone, as she's cheating on her boyfriend and using you for sex.

Remove her number from your phone, stop answering her texts, and altogether stop talking to her. Don't even give her an explanation. She'll know why.

Ok then. Cold turkey it is. I'll do this before June 30.
You need to do it now? Why are you putting it off?

I know. I'm starting right now. I'm going to ignore her. But I keep thinking about having sex with her, and cuddling afterwards. My mind keeps going there.

I know what you are saying is right. Everyone's telling me the same thing. I need to get away. I'm going to start right now.

Good. Don't let your penis guide you.