Brad455
Jun 7, 2012, 12:30 PM
Note* I'm 15 and she's 16, her ex is 17 and were all in high school but the ex is a senior and I'm a sophomore and so is she. We got to the same school and the ex goes to school in China. Sorry if its long, I just want to let you guys know the background story so you can understand the situation. Forgive me if its confusing. I suck at explaining things.
Me and my best friend have always been close, there has never been a time when we were just "friends", there's always been "something" between us. Everyone knew it and even both of us noticed it after a while. She knows I like her since I confessed to it around January this year. She rejected me though and I rejected my feelings for her. I didn't however, stop being close friends with her. Kind of stupid of me since I was trying to move on but I didn't try make moves on her or anything I just kept a barrier between us so I could get myself hurt again. She noticed and tried to break it since she disliked that I was holding back.
Well she has always had a boyfriend since I met her, only time she hasn't was for about 2 weeks when she dumped her boyfriend because she was made fun of. She didn't feel bad about it, it was kind of a mutual break up, at least to my knowledge it was. She has always had feeling for her big ex and she's been trying to lose them by dating other people, well it never worked. He found out and told her, and well they got back together. But the problem was it was going to be a long distance relationship since he moved to China for school. He was going to visit in the summer and she knew it and knew where he was going to stay. He was going to stay at his friends basement, which is like a 3 minute walk from her house. Well they were keeping the long distance thing working for a while but I something about him I didn't like. It was like if he was hiding something.
Well about 5 months into the relationship we found out what he was hiding. He's been cheating on her, multiple times, I don't know if it was with multiple girls or just one because I didn't want to ask. Well she was hear broken and cried a lot. I heard a rumor that she got dumped from her friend but didn't know if it was true. I came home that day to have her message me on Facebook. She told me what happened then called me on Skype. She was crying and the look in her eyes was killing me. I was angry at the guy, she trusted him with all her heart and he just breaks her like that. She cut her arm and starting making it worse. She wanted to cut her hair since she got that one haircut for him. I got her to calm down and was a bit loud and demanding which is not usual for me. But I got her to stop which made me glad but I talked with her the rest of the night.
Well she confessed to liking me this entire time and wanted to be with me but I rejected her because she wasn't stable at the time. I comforted her but nothing beyond that. Its been about a month since then and she been letting him back in her life on and off again. Its been hurting her and she knows I don't like that guy but she keeps talking about him. She said she still liked me but wanted to wait, I agreed and wasn't sure how long but now I'v come to think "Is she worth it?"
Just recently we talked again about him but this time it was about his visit here. She said she still loves him even if he cheated on her but at the same time, has some hatred for him. Now this might sound strange but she said that she can't love me the same way she loves him until she can unlock her heart again. And the only way to do that is to get her happiness which he has. Strange huh? Took me a bit to understand and maybe I'm not explaining it right. She sent me some song, which is my guess where she got that idea. Its called "Chain Girl by Hatsune Miku". I listened to it and read the lyrics and I understand what she's talking about now. Again this might sound strange as well, she said quote "I'm not giving him something of mine, I'm giving him something of ours, and something back that he gave me." What confused me was when she said something of ours. I don't know what she was talking about, she just said "I can't explain, don't worry, its not that, you can't see it." Which just makes me worry about it more. So she wants to fix things then leave him because all she wants to be is happy, and I don't want to deny her that. Complicated situation and I can't stop thinking about it. Any advice would be helpful.
Me and my best friend have always been close, there has never been a time when we were just "friends", there's always been "something" between us. Everyone knew it and even both of us noticed it after a while. She knows I like her since I confessed to it around January this year. She rejected me though and I rejected my feelings for her. I didn't however, stop being close friends with her. Kind of stupid of me since I was trying to move on but I didn't try make moves on her or anything I just kept a barrier between us so I could get myself hurt again. She noticed and tried to break it since she disliked that I was holding back.
Well she has always had a boyfriend since I met her, only time she hasn't was for about 2 weeks when she dumped her boyfriend because she was made fun of. She didn't feel bad about it, it was kind of a mutual break up, at least to my knowledge it was. She has always had feeling for her big ex and she's been trying to lose them by dating other people, well it never worked. He found out and told her, and well they got back together. But the problem was it was going to be a long distance relationship since he moved to China for school. He was going to visit in the summer and she knew it and knew where he was going to stay. He was going to stay at his friends basement, which is like a 3 minute walk from her house. Well they were keeping the long distance thing working for a while but I something about him I didn't like. It was like if he was hiding something.
Well about 5 months into the relationship we found out what he was hiding. He's been cheating on her, multiple times, I don't know if it was with multiple girls or just one because I didn't want to ask. Well she was hear broken and cried a lot. I heard a rumor that she got dumped from her friend but didn't know if it was true. I came home that day to have her message me on Facebook. She told me what happened then called me on Skype. She was crying and the look in her eyes was killing me. I was angry at the guy, she trusted him with all her heart and he just breaks her like that. She cut her arm and starting making it worse. She wanted to cut her hair since she got that one haircut for him. I got her to calm down and was a bit loud and demanding which is not usual for me. But I got her to stop which made me glad but I talked with her the rest of the night.
Well she confessed to liking me this entire time and wanted to be with me but I rejected her because she wasn't stable at the time. I comforted her but nothing beyond that. Its been about a month since then and she been letting him back in her life on and off again. Its been hurting her and she knows I don't like that guy but she keeps talking about him. She said she still liked me but wanted to wait, I agreed and wasn't sure how long but now I'v come to think "Is she worth it?"
Just recently we talked again about him but this time it was about his visit here. She said she still loves him even if he cheated on her but at the same time, has some hatred for him. Now this might sound strange but she said that she can't love me the same way she loves him until she can unlock her heart again. And the only way to do that is to get her happiness which he has. Strange huh? Took me a bit to understand and maybe I'm not explaining it right. She sent me some song, which is my guess where she got that idea. Its called "Chain Girl by Hatsune Miku". I listened to it and read the lyrics and I understand what she's talking about now. Again this might sound strange as well, she said quote "I'm not giving him something of mine, I'm giving him something of ours, and something back that he gave me." What confused me was when she said something of ours. I don't know what she was talking about, she just said "I can't explain, don't worry, its not that, you can't see it." Which just makes me worry about it more. So she wants to fix things then leave him because all she wants to be is happy, and I don't want to deny her that. Complicated situation and I can't stop thinking about it. Any advice would be helpful.