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carherine
Feb 26, 2007, 09:21 PM
OK well I have been with this guy off and on for 6 months and we found out that I am pregnant the day after my b-day and until that day he had never hit me or even raised his hand to hit me that night he hit me in the face ans he done it again tonight I just want to get him back for all the he has put me through I hate the fact that he never acted like that till we found out about the baby so what should I do xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx:confused: :confused: :confused:

letmetellu
Feb 26, 2007, 10:13 PM
I have feeling for you. I hate that a young girl like you gets pregnant by a guy that has no attachment to you at all except for the sex that he was getting from you and now that you are pregnant he does not want you anymore he is ready to get rid of you and the best thing you can do is to leave and never go back. You say you want to get even with him, well the best thing you can do to do that is tell your parents about your situation. With them you can then decided what you are going to do about the baby, get a lawyer, see if you can get a blood test from the father so that you can prove that he is the father. If you complete the pregnancy make sure that the father is made be the state that you live in to pay child support. Contact the State Attorney General's Office to do that.
Good Luck to you... I wish you the best.

lisa123
Feb 26, 2007, 11:03 PM
I just came out of a an abusive realationship. I was in it for almost 4 years and was to stupid to breakup with him. Seriously if he is hitting you then he's not worth it even if there is a baby involved now. If you are having this baby then its time to think about the baby. You don't want the baby to grow up with an abusive father. I think you should get far away from him as possible. I know its probably hard to have a baby with a guy that you were not even that serious with but your only young. So you have lots of time to meet a guy that would treat you better even if you have a baby. But really if you are keeping the baby you have to start thinking about the baby now and the first thing I would do is get away from the father. If he is that much of a loser to hit you then he wouldn't be a good father. Maybe things might work out. Good luck

Bluerose
Feb 26, 2007, 11:38 PM
You must talk with someone you trust about your situation. If he can hit you, imagine what he could do to a small baby. The ball is in your court. If you stay with this guy things can only get worse as the pressure builds.

You are going to need a lot of support and it doesn't sound like you are going to get it from him.

Please do not put up with any type of abuse it wares you down until you feel like Nothing.

And forget about 'getting him back'. You have your baby to think about now - move on - be the grown up you are becoming.

carherine
Feb 27, 2007, 12:38 AM
Thanks for all the input it has helped a lot I have my mom helping me she hates him and would ather kill him then to look at his I told him it was over and my best friend said that hell be the dad and help me raise the baby for me to just leave him alone altogther that he love me more than that to let a guy that hit me be the father of the baby he said that he is just a sprem doner lol my ex boyfriend said that he just wants to sign his rights over and let my best friend adopeted it that he wants nothing to do with me or the baby

Mindy420
Feb 28, 2007, 11:29 AM
Omg, that's crazy... is wrong with him? He has absolutely no right to put hands on you, exspecially when your pregnant. You got a baby to worry about now so you 4real shouldn't mess with trying to get him jumped or nothing in case he tries to retaliate. If I was you, I'd just stay the hell away from him and have the city deal with getting your child support money from him. *~Congrats about tha baby~*

EricaMissAmerica
Feb 28, 2007, 11:50 AM
LEAVE!! I have 2 children and my first child was by a guy that didn't started hitting me until she was born. He won't stop. He won't change. Things won't get better until you leave!
Stay safe

1992DodgeSpirit
Mar 5, 2007, 09:53 PM
I hate guys... exspecially ones that is mean and abusive to girls... like they say once a cheater is always a cheater and once they start to hit and start that crap that they will change they won't, that guy isn't nothing but a sorry son of a... am I surpost to watch my language here... if you want to get in touch with me, just email me your Yahoo id or something on this site then ill email you or I'm you back, thanks :)

naomprice
Apr 9, 2008, 02:11 PM
ok well i have been with this guy off and on for 6 months and we found out that i am pregnant the day after my b-day and untill that day he had never hit me or even raised his hand to hit me that night he hit me in the face ans he done it again tonight i just want to get him back for all the he has put me through i hate the fact that he never acted like that till we found out about the baby so what should i do xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx:confused: :confused: :confused:
Leave him... you and your baby deserves more than being a punching bag just because your boyfriend doesn't want to deal with the idea of a baby. There is never a excuse for a man to hit a woman especially one that is pregnant. Please don't feel like you have to stay in that kind of situation just because of the baby - it would be healthy for you both to take a time out and decide what you both really want. Please keep us updated.