When I was 16 I fell in love. We went out for just 6 months before we broke up but there were no hard feelings, we still spoke from time to time after. We lost touch and I forgot all about her until recently, I met a guy we were both friends with. They have lost touch too but it prompted me to do an Internet search and of course I found her on a couple of social networking sites. I decided to contact her feeling confident that she would be happy to hear from me but I did not get a response.

I cannot believe how much this has upset me. All my memories of her came flooding back and I am so disappointed she doesn't want talk to me. I know its possible that she may be in relationship but its been 23 years since we last met so I thought it would be OK to send a quick mail to ask how she was.

Has this happened to anyone? How did you feel? Does anyone have any insight into why she would not respond?

I know she may not be interested in digging up the past but I cannot help feeling really rejected even after all this time. Its crazy I know!

Thanks

Just let it go and move on. There's any number of reasons she didn't respond and to sit there and brood over this, it's not healthy. Just forget about it and figure she's not the person she was.

And here's a thought... I have no idea what you wrote to her but it didn't happen to be anything that she might consider weird or creepy, did it?

No, not creepy just hey how you been. I know its not healthy to think so much about it I can't work out why its getting to me so much, I guess I wanted to hear from her. Looks like she didn't want to hear from me and its got me down

There's no telling why she didn't respond. Step back from it and forget about it before it eats you up. For all you know, she's a real butthole now, you know what I mean?

Yeah, she could be but I hate to think that about her, she was great when I knew her. Feel stupid now too

I understand your dissapointment, but why take it personally? Her life has changed, she has changed in 23 years. No telling what her life is about now. You don't know, so drop it.

Just because you are free and single, maybe she isn't. Or has 27 kids. Or doesn't want to look back, who knows?

I can't believe how much it has affected me, I know it shouldn't. I guess I was looking forward to hearing from her and it's horrible that she doesn't feel the same way.

I guess it all just brought back memories. Can't help wondering if hearing from me affected her at all

Shocking I know but its only temporary, just let it go. High hopes are often thwarted by reality.

Adjust. Get back to your life.