Hey there. I've had this girlfriend for about 10 months and then all a sudden when summer came around, she wants a break. When we first talked about what the break meant she gave me clues that It wasn't over. She just needed time with her friends. She was very discrete about why we needed this break. I'm not sure she even knows herself. After that I decided the best way to try to resolve this was to give her some space, but I couldn't stand the thought of another guy in the picture. So I kept in contact with her once every two days or so via text message. After a week or so of texting she told me in a nonchalant way that she was inviting "the boys" over to her hot tub. So naturally I got a little edgy. Then she got on my back about being over protective when we're not technically together. Another thing that came up was: I asked if I could see her even if it's only for an hour and she talked about how she didn't want to confuse her mom because she told her we're already broken up. That's when it hit me that their may be no way out of this and it's already over. I'd really love to save this because she's one of the most amazing girls you'll ever meet. She plays for her church band, was raised as a southern country girl, and is absolutely beautiful:) So I need your help for a new look at how to attack this pickle I'm in. Please help me save this.

There's no pickle. She has broken up with you so she can see/date other guys. "Taking a break" was just her "nice" way of letting you down easy. She could have been with you and still made time with her friends. Girls don't like anyone to dislike them, especially not guys--thus, that's why she was dishonest and broke up with you this way. Be smart and go totally No Contact--no phone calls, no texting, no in-person convos/touching/kisses, no checking with mutual friends to find out what she's doing.

A break, not to hurt your feelings, usually means it's over. It's cowards way out of letting people go, and it sucks because people have no idea that they're actually giving their partner some kind of twisted hope that they could get back together. Some do, but most of the time it's a kind way out.

Move on buddy, forget about her, stop texting, talking, messaging and thinking about her. It's going to be hard, but it's only as hard as you let it. Go out with some friends, try some new things, go try something you never got to but wanted to. Stay active and focus on the future and the present and enjoy your life. Eventually you'll move on and maybe even find someone new, someone better. Time is your friend, he will help you heal.