View Full Version : My man doesn't kiss me goodbuy in the morning while I'm sleeping, should I worry?
662418082010
Jun 5, 2012, 05:12 AM
I know if may seem a little foolish to some for asking this, but most of the time my man doesn't kiss me goodbuy in the morning when he leaves for work. He is up early and leaves the door before I even wake. I know he doesn't kiss me goodbuy. I've asked him about this and told him I wanted him too, but he still doesn't... he says he doesn't was to wake me and not to create problems when we have none. When I'm up he does and says "Have a great day"... He is a very busy business man, but I'm not sure if this is reflefted towards the way he feels for me, or is he just consumed with his day. Please someone, help me understand this.
C0bra_M3nace
Jun 5, 2012, 05:55 AM
Don't worry about it, unless he gets up, and has enough time to make a cup of coffee, read his favorite article in the morning newspaper and have some breakfast, he's probably not getting up happy which could mean he's in no mood for romantic gestures. I read a study about a month ago that said people who wake up, and go straight to work start their days off worse than those who can wake up and do all I listed above. Don't remember the exact details, but you get what I mean.
I would say nothing to worry about, unless he doesn't give you affection at all. Then that's a new issue all it's own, but if you're only worried about this and this is the only affection he does not give, then no need to fret.
662418082010
Jun 5, 2012, 05:58 AM
Thank you... when I'm up with him he come and gives me a kiss goodbuy and all is good... Maybe I'm just too needy... I work from home so I have all day to think about it...
C0bra_M3nace
Jun 5, 2012, 06:00 AM
thank you...when I'm up with him he come and gives me a kiss goodbuy and all is good....Maybe I'm just too needy....I work from home so I have all day to think about it....
Our minds love to wander, but like I said, unless he is lacking in affection all together, then you're fine. :)
tezzama
Jun 5, 2012, 06:02 AM
I personally start work very early also, when I wake up in the morning it takes me about half hour before I actually wake up probably.
Does he kiss you every other time? I don't want to wake my partner either when I wake up so I am always extra quite.
662418082010
Jun 5, 2012, 06:12 AM
Yes he does... in fact came home yesterday for a few minutes before changing jobs, just to give me a kiss... I'm too paranoid I know.
662418082010
Jun 5, 2012, 06:13 AM
Actually it's weird... sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't... like when he comes home sometimes... he just starts talking about his day and doesn't kiss me... weird, but he says, there are no issues... I'm confused sometimes.
Okay, so what is the big issue over kissing for you? It sounds as though you have a wonderful man who is very conscientious of you and your sleep. He doesn't want to wake you, kudos to him because he wants you to get your rest.
I don't know the whole story, but it appears that you are too needy. Kissing should be reserved for when a partner feels the need to do so, otherwise it becomes too commonplace and means nothing at all.
How long have the two of you been together?
662418082010
Jun 5, 2012, 06:24 AM
Thank you for your response J9... I think I am too needy and insecure with him. Don't know why? I could have a really good life with him and I need to let it go and be happy with him. We have been together about 8 months... I know what you are saying, and I guess I'm just wishing he would that's all... because I would... How do I just let it go?
You just accept the fact that he loves you BECAUSE he is not waking you by kissing you.
I work nights, my husband works at home and gets up whenever he pleases. If he were to get up at noon and kiss me, waking me, I would be pi$$ed off because I work from 7pm to 7am and he woke me in what I consider my middle of the night.
You've only been together for 8 months, you are still in the (female) honeymoon stage. He has moved on to the more mature stage of the relationship by giving you your space and respecting your rest.
A mature relationship doesn't revolve around "kissing," it revolves around spending time together, talking, laughing, etc. Kissing should be reserved for when both partners are willing to do so.
Us women dream of the knight in shining armor who sweeps us off our feet... men don't think that way. They are more practical. The sooner you learn this, the longer your relationship will last.
662418082010
Jun 5, 2012, 06:35 AM
Thank you..