I have a 10 yr old son and he will not listen to me at all he screams at me and tells me to shut up he is so disrespectful to me I have done all I know to do I have taken things away I have whipped him put him his room grounded him I don't know what else to do he will tell me he is not going to do the things I tell him to do he won't clean his room or do anything I ask until I get mad and have to punish him then he will start yelling I will do it I will do it he talks nasty at me I don't know what to do anymore I am at my end here I have took him to the doctor and told her and completed the paperwork for him to be put on some form of adhd medicine she seen how he acted just the few minutes we were in the office he won't sit still he turns around all the tume won't concentrate gets in trouble in school talks all the time interupts me when I am talking I don't know what to do can anyone offer me any advice?

Totally change your strategy. Be quiet when you used to yell. Don't slap or spank. Instead, sing in a happy voice a made-up song about what you want him to do. If it's cleaning his room, you sing and begin picking up things and making the bed, and encourage him to join in and help you. Or whisper and make it like a secret thing. The point is to make him strain to listen and to make it fun.

Have you ever had a sit-down meeting with him? Talk with him about how you are going to put up a job chart and that he gets stickers or a checkmark (placed by you) when he finishes his chores each day and then will get a small reward (he makes a reasonable list that you approve or not--write them down) at the end of each week.