Hi!

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and I want to introduce him to my mother. He has met my dad already and everything went fine, but I am concerned about the way my mother may act when meeting him for the first time.

The problem is in her attitude to other people - she is a stuck-up, snobby "lady", who often acts in a very condescending manner... she thinks she is perfect ´cause she has money (that are all, in fact, eraned by my dad). She is the opposite of my dad, a "country guy", laid-back and cool man who doesn´t care about "social classes" and things like that. (btw, my parents are not divorced, they live together)

As for my boyfriend, he isn´t poor - his family lives a comfortable life, too... he has his own car and so on, but he cannot be supported financially by parents as much as I can, so he goes to work and lives at home (btw, we are both 19 years old, I am a freshman at university, 300 km away from home).

He just doesn´t fit into the "social class" that my mum thinks my potential boyfriend shold fit into (a snobby millionaire). Therefore, I am afraid that she will be rude or condescending when meeting him (I am pretty sure she will). I want her to like him so that she won´t try to break us apart. But I don´t want my boyfriend to pretend that he is somebody else just because of my mother´s attitude... any advice?

(I know it´s long and my English isn´t perfect, so sorry about that)

Thanks a lot.

All you need to do, is tell your boyfriend exactly what you told us, and that you don't want your mother to come between you. She shouldn't, your mother should have little to no say in the people you fall in love with or go out with. Keep that in mind, it doesn't matter what she thinks, but what you think.

Good luck.

I agree, tell him what you told us.
Tell him when he meets her to just be himself, since your Dad is already a fan, then time it so that he is there also, to hopefully lessen the tension.
Your laid-back country dad likes him, so he must have recognized some good qualities.
In time your boyfriend will learn how to take your mother and deal with whatever is said or not said, etc, etc.
She is who she is, probably not going to change.