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chopsquad
Jun 1, 2012, 10:39 AM
So, I have been falling for this girl ever since we started talking to each other in Physics class. She would always stare at my direction in class even before we started talking. Once we started talking she would always want to know more about me and would just constantly ask questions. Near the end of the first semester I found out she had a boyfriend.

It felt really bad because I think I was already falling for her. I tried to just forget and move on but it didn't really work, we kept in touch over winter break and she wanted to go hiking so I took her hiking a few times and by just talking to her and her laughing at every little stupid joke I made just made my more interested into her. She doesn't have a phone. But she has a messenger and we always talk and she would just sometimes just randomly say HI or good morning even though I didn't message her that day what so ever. Until recently a mutual friend of ours who is my good friend, who know I like her. He gets on the messenger and tells her "that I love her" and "he doesn't know how to tell you"... and says "I'm mad"... she replies saying “I bet But he knows I don't believe anyone other than David, so he shouldn't be too upset...

I really like this girl but I don't know what to do I would love to just friends but I would always know I like her and it would just be hard. Should I risk it all and just confess to her even though she has a boyfriend or just forget about her?

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 1, 2012, 10:42 AM
No, respect the relationship and keep to yourself about your feelings. If she ever decides she wants to be with you, she will end things with her boyfriend and then, and only then will it be okay to confess your love.

Respect the relationship my friend, put yourself in her boyfriends shoes.

Wondergirl
Jun 1, 2012, 10:42 AM
She is in a relationship. Until that is finished, you have no business confessing your love to/feelings for her. And once she and that other guy end things, if and when they do, be careful you aren't a rebound until she gets her feet back on the floor.

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 1, 2012, 10:50 AM
She is in a relationship. Until that is finished, you have no business confessing your love to/feelings for her. And once she and that other guy end things, if and when they do, be careful you aren't a rebound until she gets her feet back on the floor.

Great point Wondergirl, I agree, rebounds are great in basketball, but they have no place in a relationship! Watch out.

talaniman
Jun 2, 2012, 06:55 PM
Respect the relationship, and your own dignity. Yes move on and stop acting like a couple and spending so much time with her so you can think of what's the right thing to do and not give way to intense feelings for her and do something really silly.

She spends time with you because you are safe, and she doesn't have to fend off feelings of wanting more.

Its simple, lose the idea of romance, or lose a friend. Your choice.