Me and my boyfriend have been together 4 years now and last Sunday he asked me to marry him I said yes but I want to spice up our sex life any ideas?

Yes. Watch porno. Read books. Talk to him about his fantasies.

Everyone has a different idea about "spice" when it comes to sex.

How old are you both?

I'm 20 an he is 22

JudyKayTee hit it right on the head... talk to him... watch a variety of types of porn yourself... find what interests you... find what interests him... then were you find an overlap you have the things t try... just understand... there are going to be things one or the other doesn't like... or might even find repulsing... so those things should be considered off-limits.

At your ages... you really don't know what most those are yet... either of you.

Work up a list of things you both enjoy... and randomely work through them... any one thing is going to get boring it you do it too much, and too long.

Consider it like your favorite Ice Cream... Once a week... its the best stuff on earth... but eat it 3 times a day, every day... for months on end... and its not going to be good for long. An extensive menu prevents you from getting tired of any particular entrée.

Visit the public library, 612.6 (Dewey Decimal number)

It all depends on what spice up means to you, and how much if any sex you do now.
From body paints, to costumes to role playing, to watching some porn to someone else, it may be just not having sex in the bedroom.

Visit the public library, 612.6 (Dewey Decimal number)

Oh.. so that's where they hide the adult material...

Oh..so thats where they hide the adult material.....
And no longer behind the front desk and wrapped in brown paper.