View Full Version : My parents are disappointed in me and are verbally abusive?
giulianagrande
May 29, 2012, 11:31 AM
I live with my parents and I know they love me very much but half the time they look at me and are disappointed in what they see. I am not as pretty or thin as I could be, nor am I the poster daughter I was supposed to be. I am not as smart as they would like and also have a low tolerance for stressful situations. When they recognize all of the things they dislike about me, they act out in anger, usually using harsh words and loud voices. Shortly afterwards, they regret that they treated their daughter this way and buy extravagant gifts as a band-aid instead of apologizing. They over react and don't understand what half of the things that are said to them, and when they realize they made a mistake, they lash out... And the vicious cycle continues. I do not know how to deal with this, as my financial situation is less then perfect and I do depend on my parents for that support but I do not know if it is worth the drama or traumatic stress their attitudes are causing me. I know that when I move out, the space from my parents will be easier to cope with but until then I am stuck between this ty rock and terrible hard place. What should I do?
smoothy
May 29, 2012, 11:42 AM
I live with my parents and I know they love me very much but half the time they look at me and are disappointed in what they see. I am not as pretty or thin as I could be, nor am I the poster daughter I was supposed to be. I am not as smart as they would like and also have a low tolerance for stressful situations. When they recognize all of the things they dislike about me, they act out in anger, usually using harsh words and loud voices. Shortly afterwards, they regret that they treated their daughter this way and buy extravagant gifts as a band-aid instead of apologizing. They over react and don't understand what half of the things that are said to them, and when they realize they made a mistake, they lash out...And the vicious cycle continues. I do not know how to deal with this, as my financial situation is less then perfect and I do depend on my parents for that support but I do not know if it is worth the drama or traumatic stress their attitudes are causing me. I know that when I move out, the space from my parents will be easier to cope with but until then I am stuck between this ty rock and terrible hard place. What should I do?
T start with how old are you... this is needed to determine a lot of things...