My mom walked out on us today. She said she was unhappy with her life in general. We were terrible kids, and her husband is a piece of ****. The thing is, there is only one other kid in this family besides me. He is 10. He does nothing but plays his xbox, and wants to go to friends houses to be with his friends. This is just terrible according to my mother. She believes we are the worst kids walking on this planet. I could understand if we were auctually troubled kids, but I'm a full time athlete. I don't drink. I don't do drugs. Yet we are the worst kids on the world. My mom growing up never had a mother. Her mother beat her, and just all around was bad to her. Her dad was an over the road truck driver and was never home. But she still talks to both of her parents, and both of her parents are live savers when it comes to taking care of me and my brother. I don't understand what I did to make her hate me so much. I don't understand what my whole family did to make her this unhappy. We love our mom. Especially me. I'm heart broken. I've prayed god isn't listening. I've tried calling her, texting her.. everything no answer. I'm scared she's gone for good this time. I can't be a mom to my little brother. I'm only 16. Please help.. I just want my mom back.

Wait - 'her husband?' Who is this husband of hers whom you don't mention at all and don't call your dad? I assume he's not your bio father... where is he, what does he do, is he good to you, did he leave first, what is going on?
There's no advice to give a teen to bring your mother back home. I suspect, however, that it isn't you kids who brought this on but her husband. If she felt loved and appreciated by him, she'd put up with the typical kids (who don't help out around the house one bit, mostly). What woman wants to shop, cook, clean, launder, and a million other dismal household chores when she doesn't have appreciation?

There is no guarantee that being a parent, makes you a parent, or makes you a good parent. Lots of parents are lousy parents who do lifelong harm to their children, many who grow up repeating patterns they grew up with, many suffering from guilt, poor self esteem, confidence, relationship problems, etc.

That your mother made the choice she did, is not your fault, and cannot be blamed on you, her husband (your father?), your brother, or anything else. She had options. Counselling, is one. Surely she knew what she was doing didn't have to happen when she closed the door behind her.

It is difficult to separate yourself from your mother as far as responsibility and blame go, but you need to know that you are a person in your own right, and a good one from what I gather, and you have a promising future ahead of you. As does your brother.

Don't dwell on the 'what if's'. It is time to take action, for the safety and security of both you and your brother. I don't know what the situation is with your father (if he is your father), but you have said that your grandparents have been very supportive of you kids.

Reach out to them first. Can you stay with them, or can they try for guardianship if they are willing. Speak to a trusted adult about your situation. Can your father (?) cope with raising you two on your own? Will he take steps to make sure you are well cared for?

You need stability in your life; not just because of your age, but because we all need stability. What you feel now is no different than the loss of a boyfriend, husband, best friend, etc. it is a loss of an influential person in your life- good or bad. That loss has to be dealt with one way or the other.

I would hope that she would come home, and try to make up for what she has caused. But even if she does, I would recommend that you seek counselling to deal with all these emotions, and learn by speaking to a counsellor face to face, that you are not responsible for anybody elses' behaviour, but your own. Work toward living a life, without the burden of the problems of another person on your shoulders.

Good luck to you- it was good that you've reached out for help.

Hes my step father, he lives with us. Hes been with me since I was 4. Me and him don't get along so instead of fighting we just don't talk, or acknowledge each other. He babbies my little brother a lot.. but he is his first child.. so that's understandable. My mom and him fight quite often, but I never thought it was so bad she would leave her kids. My real dad lives 2 hours away. Me and him are finally getting along. There for awhile he went though a divorce with my ex step mom.. and he was dating and going to bars and drinking and really didn't care about his kids. He left us kids me and my other 2 brothers on my dads side to date so my mother resented him.. and now she is doing the same thing. (leaving us wise, not seeing other men.. at least I don't think so.)

I can't turn to my step dad for help. According to him its my fault she's so unhappy because of my mouth. Yes, I agree I can be mouthy sometimes... just like everyother 16 year old on this planet. But was I really that bad that she had to leave... I loved her so much. She was my one and only rock I could count on in my life. I understand I shouldn't be blameing myself, but its so hard not to when everyone I'm around is telling me otherwise.

Often parents fight over things and kids get caught,

But all of a sudden now perfect kids ignore step parent, and most likely kids fight among themselves. Next what work or help do the kids do around the house, do they do their own laundry, clean their own rooms, help take turns cooking meals

But give her a day or two, most likely she will be back after she settles down

Sounds like the adults need to grow up here.

Kids out of control, are a discipline problem to be figured out and solved, kids out of control shouldn't be abandoned because it gets tough to deal with them.

It's one thing for her to take a break, go and visit somebody for a few days, and catch her breath, and come back with a new attitude and a new plan. It is quite another thing for her to abandon her family.

There are many other ways of solving problems than running from them. No matter what, or who, the cause may be.

That goes for anyone of any age. If you have a problem with your temper, that is something you need to work on. But what you don't do is blame your parents for your temper, then run away from home.

Abandoning ship won't solve anything. It is too bad there wasn't some sort of intervention before things got so desperate.

I never once said we were perfect kids, and yes I do my own laundry, Im usually the one to make supper unless we grill, and me as well as my brother have chores that get done everyday. (vaccuming, sweeping, dusting, mowing, cleaning in general).

I didn't mean to accuse you of anything, just said what is often a reason for mothers to leave. When we are teens we forget that they are people, human, WOMEN. They need love, and that love needs to be shown in the form of appreciation, not just words either. It's a group effort. Her husband has to be the # 1 person to start.
It's awful of your stepdad to blame you. In fact that's so awful it's pretty good proof that he is the **** she said he is.