Pretty much at the end of my rope you know? I'm 20. I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years. The fact that I'm online looking for help should more than say I've tried just about every damn thing out there I can think of.

To sum it up. We've been together all throughout high school. I made a mistake and cheated a very long time ago. I know she's never forgiven me. But we got past that slip up. Our relationship is on off because we fight so much time. 4 years into our relationship, she decides to become engulfed in her religion after 2 1/2 years of sex. So I've been cut off. And I'm going to be honest. I very much enjoy having sex. But I only have sex with the person I'm with. I don't think it's a religious choice because she is overly concerned with her mother discovering she isn't a virgin. We've been hiding that for a long time.

My problems other than the sex. She isn't the same anymore. She borderline hates me if anything. Everything I say is wrong. If I ask a question, she gets pissed off. She hardly talks to me. And I just don't bother now because it's the same no matter what I say. And she hardly cares if she sees me anymore. Its not like she doesn't want to go anywhere because her guy friends take her out all the time it seems. I'm suspicious as hell about that. Because that's just it. It seems all her friends are guys. Never any girls. She never tells me when she goes out. Who she is with. What she is doing. But expects a full report from me before I even go anywhere.

She's gone from me being everything to her, to could care less. But when I'm ready to call it quits and say lets go our separate ways. She will start acting like herself for a week or two. Ill even get sex. And then when it looks like I'm content and things are going to be okay, she stops acting like herself and turns back into this from hell.

And with how she is, she somehow still has a problem with me not talking to her even though she behaves like a when we talk. And its obvious. Am I wrong for not being super nice like I used to be? I don't like her now but I'm in love still. I really don't want to lose this girl. Everything I try to do fails. A part of me thinks she pretty much just wants me gone and done with and the other thinks there may be something wrong. But I can't figure that out because she doesn't share things with me. She isn't open with me. She doesn't tell me her feelings. But her guy friends know everything they want to know. I know this because they hate me for not being the best boyfriend in the world in a relationship they really don't understand because I've read a few of the text messages and she doesn't talk about anything wrong she does. Just puts me off as the worst boyfriend in the world.

Its been 4 years. I've made a ton of sacrifices to be with her. Done and said many things I don't want to for her. And there's 0 appreciation for any of yet.
I've run out of to try. That I can think of at least.

What should I do?

You know what.? your acting like you are the one who is hurt.. who was the first to cheat? It is u.. The thing is your girlfriend don't trust you anymore she.coudnt think a way why you cheated on her..

Once a girls trust is broken you can never get the sweetness you hve back.. accept the fact that.. maybe your girlfriend don't love you no more.. but there is also a possibility that your girlfriend just want you to be jealous for you to realized the wrongs you done.. maybe she just want you to feel the pain she feel when you cheated on her.. she justwant to return the old you. . The you.. when you first sa each other.. she wants you to be more loke a man.. . and one thing you shouldn't force her to have sex with u.. If she doesn't want that you should respect hr decisions.. iyou always say things about sex.. she may think that.. you just waant to have sex with her but tjere is no love.. if you truly loves her respect her and be more nice, sweet and faithful to her.. . give her the feelings that she is only your one always think and undertand girls emotion.. you are the one who make her that way so you should understaand her try to be faithful to her. For her to see that you really change. . You hould mak her feel that you are serious and that you are willing to risk everything for her. . Make her happy...

you know what.??ur acting like you are the one who is hurt.. who was the first to cheat? it is u.. the thing is your gf dont trust you anymore she.coudnt think a way why you cheated on her..

lhnne,
Fyi. I am the one whose hurt? That happened years ago. And I've tried to do everything I can for her, before and after that event, if it really hung into our relationship this far. My question would have been how to get her to forgive me rather than help. She didn't forgive me. But she said she's past it, and that ill regret it if it happens again. Which it hasn't and won't. She doesn't trust me. That's the only remotely helpful thing you said. Thank you for your time anyway

once a girls trust is broken you can never get the sweetness you hve back.. accept the fact that.. maybe ur gf dont love you no more.. but there is also a possibility that ur gf just want you to be jealous for you to realized the wrongs you done.. maybe she just want you to feel the pain she feel when you cheated on her.. she justwant to return tje old you. . the you.. when you first sa each other.. she wants you to be more loke a man. .. and one thing you shouldnt force her to have sex with u.. if she doesnt want that you should respect hr decisions.. iyou always say things about sex.. she may think that.. you just waant to have sex with her but tjere is no love.. if you truly loves her respect her and be more nice, sweet and faithful to her. .. give her the feelings that she is only your one always think and undertand girls emotion.. you are the one who make her that way so you should understaand her try to be faithful to her. for her to see that you really change. . you hould mak her feel that you are serious and that u are willing to risk everything for her. . make her happy...

Now you're response is actually the sort of help I'm looking for. Thanks. I don't force her to have sex with me. I never have. Its always been a choice. And I don't force the situation or things like that because my conscious would bother me very much and sex isn't worth that kind of mental torture ill do to myself. You may have helped me narrowed it down. It isn't a revenge thing. She told me that when I said it last year. But with some of things you said. Id think you were friends. You're ideas are good though

now youre response is actually the sort of help im looking for. thanks. i dont force her to have sex with me. i never have. its always been a choice. and i dont force the situation or things like that because my conscious would bother me very much and sex isnt worth that kinda mental torture ill do to myself. you may have helped me narrowed it down. it isnt a revenge thing. she told me that when i said it last year. but with some of things you said. id think you were friends. youre ideas are good though


If you really love her. . You should fight for her.. no matter what.. but if she already told you that she don't love you no more.. you should respect her decisions... still you shouldn't get angry with her.. every reltionship has its ending.. if she returns to you. . You truly mean... t to be but if not.. maybe you should move on.. god prepared someone better for you.. I know it is hard for you to set her free for how many years you`ve been together but keep it in mind that no matter how hard the situation is there is someone out there who will love you the way you love that girl.. move on... find a way to heal your heart... its only a matter of time.. and that pain in your heart will be gone...
.. I hope you will find that girl.. who will love you.. accept you for who you are. . And willing to spent the rest of her life to you. . Goodluck! And be happy..

now youre response is actually the sort of help im looking for. thanks. i dont force her to have sex with me. i never have. its always been a choice. and i dont force the situation or things like that because my conscious would bother me very much and sex isnt worth that kinda mental torture ill do to myself. you may have helped me narrowed it down. it isnt a revenge thing. she told me that when i said it last year. but with some of things you said. id think you were friends. youre ideas are good though


If you really love her. . You should fight for her.. no matter what.. but if she already told you that she don't love you no more.. you should respect her decisions... still you shouldn't get angry with her.. every reltionship has its ending.. if she returns to you. . You truly mean... t to be but if not.. maybe you should move on.. god prepared someone better for you.. I know it is hard for you to set her free for how many years you`ve been together but keep it in mind that no matter how hard the situation is there is someone out there who will love you the way you love that girl.. move on... find a way to heal your heart... its only a matter of time.. and that pain in your heart will be gone...
.. I hope you will find that girl.. who will love you.. accept who you are. . And willing to spent the rest of his life to you.. goodluck.. an be happy... :)

if you really love her. . you should fight for her.. no matter what.. but if she already told you that she dont love you no more.. you should respect her decisions.... still you shouldnt get angry with her .. every reltionship has its ending.. if she returns to you. . you truly mean...t to be but if not.. maybe you should move on..god prepared someone better for you.. i know it is hard for you to set her free for how many years you`ve been together but keep it in mind that no matter how hard the situation is there is someone out there who will love you the way you love that girl.. move on... find a way to heal ur heart.... its only a matter of time.. and tht pain in your heart will be gone...
.. i hope you will find that girl.. who will love you .. accept you for who you are. . and willing to spent the rest of her life to you. . goodluck! and be happy..

Thank you

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