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Darkangelxx
May 26, 2012, 08:13 AM
Well okay here goes, my friend broke up with her ex boyfriend and she wanted me to text him to tell him, as me and him text each other deciding to be friends I was okay. I'm cool with that thinking we probably won't talk to each other at all but I ended falling pretty hard for him and he feels the same way we have been dating a few weeks now when he calls me and says that, my friend wants to try and talk it meaning getting back together.
So I cry really hard after I asked her weeks and weeks even giving her time to think about her being positive she was okay with us dating she says yeah. Now she goes and does this knowing how I feel about him. My heart is killing me cause I love him lots, so I need some advice cause I'm in pain and feeling betrayed.
Fr_Chuck
May 26, 2012, 08:18 AM
Should not have gotten in the middle of it with him and her to start with, you are lucky she does not now believe you were trying to break them up. And they had just broke up, almost always the "rebound" relationship never works.
Sorry but this is sort of what happens, my guess, he goes back to her, or if he wants to, you know he does not really want to be with you, time to back out of it and learn a good life lesson about leaving boyfriends of best friends alone. You will be very very lucky if you don't lose both of them.
Darkangelxx
May 26, 2012, 10:05 AM
She's really not my friend she has almost been two faced to me , always been mean and had stole my boyfriends away for me and I didn't know I would start feeling for him
talaniman
May 26, 2012, 01:36 PM
WOW!!
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/what-should-do-cheating-lies-654493.html
You got over the other guy really quick, and you will get over this one as well, if need be.
How old are you three Darkangel?
Darkangelxx
May 26, 2012, 02:05 PM
No , I am not three and for.a fact is that the reason I guy over the other hmm I wringer why cause I didn't care about that guy as much as I do this one so you don't if I will or not , yea I for over the other wick was a hmm how many weeks ago, but I what I feel for this one I didn't feel for the other so yea , u don't know I will
talaniman
May 26, 2012, 04:11 PM
How old is he, her, and you is what I mean't not that you are three, LOL, and be easy on the chat/text, please.
Darkangelxx
May 26, 2012, 04:42 PM
Im 18, he's 21 and she is 17
talaniman
May 26, 2012, 05:53 PM
What does the guy say? Seems to me he is the one caught between you, and it really is his choice. Its him who should have told her no from the get go, and not have you hanging in the wind. So don't make this a competition against you two girls, because if he is confused as to the right thing to do, then he may not be the partner you can trust and rely on.
I hope you see that and don't let your feelings stop your judgement. Just me, I think I remove myself if there is any hesitation, or if my partner(?), doesn't handle the business at hand in a proper timely matter.
I don't get over he didn't shut down her efforts from the beginning.
Darkangelxx
May 26, 2012, 05:59 PM
She's broke his heart left him him and slept with another guy, he says his heart is torn in two, and that whatever he decides he cares about me.and that I'm the best thing to ever happen to him, well if I.am so much why does he want the girl who's broke his heart
talaniman
May 26, 2012, 06:29 PM
And cheated. You made my point. WHY?
I know its very hard, and chances are he still has some strong unresolved feelings, and to be fair, he may not be ready for what you need, but needs what you have. A nurse to help him through the hard times.
But still..!
Talaniman Rule - Don't get involved with any one fresh from a break up.
Talaniman Rule - Never get involved with someone who still has an ex in their lives.*
*Think extra hard if there are kids connecting exes.
Darkangelxx
May 26, 2012, 06:39 PM
Maybe he does now I just wait for his awnser but I think I already know his awnser.. her.and when she does it to him again , he's going to want my help to get him over her help him move on , yeah ill still be his friend but that's all till he knows what he wants
talaniman
May 26, 2012, 07:47 PM
Good luck which ever way it works out.
Darkangelxx
May 27, 2012, 06:53 AM
Thanks and you were right he chose her