I'm 15 and I just moved into a small private school with about 100 kids this year. I met this girl about 4 months ago and we were great friends. We would talk and laugh all the time, go out for ice cream etc. But after about 2 months she would start talking to me less, and seemed almost annoyed when I spoke with her. Eventually she completely stopped talking to me and wouldn't acknowledge me at all. I did not do anything to make her not like me, it just seemed like we slowly drifted away. So after about a month she sends me a text saying that she's been thinking about me and misses me and that she would tell me why she's been distant in person.

She never did tell me why she stopped talking to me. It was a little awkward talking again but eventually we ended up being just like we were when we first met, if not closer. Every day we would talk and laugh in class and at lunch, but we haven't seen each other outside of school at all. These past two weeks I feel like were drifting apart again.

During class she would say stuff that is meant to be jokes but I feel that there's some truth to them. She would say that everyone's tired of me but were all stuck with you, she would tell me to shut up etc. I think she is half joking half wanting me to leave her alone. During lunch I ask if she wants to hang out and she says she's doing homework or something, but I just see her with her friends. She doesn't respond to my texts, and she never asks to hang out. I feel like I am the only one who wants to hangout or be together, and it feels like I am just a bother for her. I really do enjoy spending time with her and I don't want that to end.

Last night she texted me and apologized for the mean things she said to me and said she was going to write me a letter saying how sorry she is. She said that she has been feeling unhappy and depressed lately, and that since I'm the closest one to her she took it out on me. I told her it was OK and that the best part of my day is just talking to you. I told her how I felt about us drifting apart and that I feel she doesn't want to spend time with me, and she said that she felt the same way about me and that the reason she wouldn't hang out is that she felt that I wanted my space, which is not true. I wish I could be with her 24/7 and I feel incomplete when I'm not with her.

The next day at school she does the same thing. She doesn't talk to me at class, says she's too busy to hang out at lunch but she's actually just with her friends. It seemed like she didn't want to talk about what we said yesterday. I feel like she didn't mean the stuff she said, and that she really doesn't want to spend time with me and that she just said that so my feelings would not get hurt. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Do you think that eventually she will want to talk more or is this the end?

I feel like she only wants to talk to me when she doesn't have anyone else to talk to, which is most of the day. But once one of her friends is available she ignores me and hangs out with them. I don't want to be just the person she talks to when she's bored and has no one else to talk to.

I think it's important for you to know that I do like her as more than a friend. I have no idea if the feeling is mutual, we never kissed or fooled around or anything, but I feel like she does enjoy my company and laughs at my jokes and is always smiling when I'm around. I want to have a relationship with her, but I feel that both of us are too scared to make a move. My school is very small, and she is my only real friend, and risking that by making a move scares the hell out of me because I would be lost without her. By what I have said do you feel she likes me as more than a friend as well? And should I make a move?

She probably just needs her space.

She probably just needs her space.

I hope so, because I can give her that, if its just me there's nothing I can do.

Well, you're 15. The behaviors of teenagers are incredibly confusing. I know, because I am a teenager :/

Well, you're 15. The behaviors of teenagers are incredibly confusing. I know, because I am a teenager :/
Yes, confused is exactly how I feel right now haha

You have made her a priority, while you are an option. Something to do when there is nothing else and while she has friends, you don't so may be missing on a lot of things you could be enjoying.

This isn't a real friendship is it? Of course not, but now you are to afraid to let go and look around, and that's what you need to do, explore other options because this one is actually stopping you from knowing anything but her.

Don't believe me, ask her to be your girlfriend and find out she doesn't want that. But she won't let you even have a chance to find better. Hey, maybe you are her pet. I know, sorry, that's a low blow. But you still better at least find out where you stand with her, so you can get her off that stupid pedestal you have put her on. And so far have given your whole existence to.

I mean really you have made NO FRIENDS besides her?? That's pretty disgusting for a 15 year old guy. Almost as much as being stuck on some girl for 4 months, and don't hangout or do anything except at school, where she rather be with her friends.

Do something besides moon for a female guy.

You have made her a priority, while you are an option. Something to do when there is nothing else and while she has friends, you don't so may be missing on a lot of things you could be enjoying.

This isn't a real friendship is it? Of course not, but now you are to afraid to let go and look around, and thats what you need to do, explore other options because this one is actually stopping you from knowing anything but her.

Don't believe me, ask her to be your girlfriend and find out she doesn't want that. But she won't let you even have a chance to find better. hey, maybe you are her pet. I know, sorry, thats a low blow. But you still better at least find out where you stand with her, so you can get her off that stupid pedestal you have put her on. And so far have given your whole existence to.

I mean really you have made NO FRIENDS besides her???? Thats pretty disgusting for a 15 year old guy. Almost as much as being stuck on some girl for 4 months, and don't hangout or do anything except at school, where she rather be with her friends.

Do something besides moon for a female guy.

I agree with you 100% that she is a priority while I am an option. Growing up was rough for me, and I never had anyone to talk about my problems with, no mom and dad, therapist, no one. So this girl is the closest thing I have to that, I feel I can tell her about my problems and she will show sympathy for me, so I don't want to lose the only person I can actually talk to. Sure I have plenty of friends I could play basketball, play poker, drink, and hangout with, but she is the only person in my life that I can actually talk to about my problems, and I don't want to lose that.

Friends is great then, but you still have to explore your own options. Kind of rough being a friend who has problems all the time though. That's no fun either. Maybe that's why you are only friends.

Aren't 15 year old supposed to be about fun, and doing stuff?

Friends is great then, but you still have to explore your own options. Kinda rough being a friend who has problems all the time though. Thats no fun either. Maybe thats why you are only friends.

Aren't 15 year old supposed to be about fun, and doing stuff?

Yes but growing up in a civil war, living in the gutter, and having no man and dad to raise you really makes you mature fast. You learn life isn't about the stupid teens see as fun. Getting a head start in life as a teen will make your adult life so much easier, while everyone else is skipping school and smoking weed, I'm expanding my knowledge and getting good grades. Mabey she hasent realized this yet and that's why she doesn't want to have a relationship...