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anysmit
May 25, 2012, 11:55 AM
Hi, I have been in relationship with this guy for over 2 and half yrs. We live in the same city. He used to stay in hostel during his college.
Now is the vacation time and he has gone back to his house. He is now being weird. He suddenly asked me time to think about our relationship. He hasn't ever been like this before. He is scared to talk to his parents about this. Saying that they might have certain expectations from him etc.

He doesn't know if at all his parents [south Indian] would accept a north Indian [me] in their family. I tried to talk to him over phone requesting him not to freak out and keep it cool but it doesn't seem to work. He is now telling. "I don't know why but I feel that the intensity of my love for u seems to decrease". Now I am scared what the hell is wrong with him and how to I talk to him and help him sort it out.

I really like this guy and he too likes me rather liked me. I don't understand it now.

Please help.

Thank you.

^_^

JudyKayTee
May 25, 2012, 12:24 PM
Ask him - he's been your boyfriend for 2-1/2 years. Presumably he KNOWS what's going on.

He's already given you hints about needing time to think, concern about his parents.

Ask him.

anysmit
May 28, 2012, 12:46 PM
Ask him - he's been your boyfriend for 2-1/2 years. Presumably he KNOWS what's going on.

He's already given you hints about needing time to think, concern about his parents.

Ask him.

what do I ask him??
I don't know how to react
I am trying to listen to all that he wants to speak but what do I ask him...

if you are hinting towards asking him for the D day then he has already proposed me and I have told him yes... it is after that incident that he is behaving weirdly...
:(
ps- thanks for bothering to answer ^_^

JudyKayTee
May 28, 2012, 01:19 PM
What do you ask him? You ask him why he said, ""i dont know why but i feel that the intensity of my love for u seems to decrease." Why does he feel that way?

As far as how to react that depends entirely on how he answers you.

No, I'm not hinting toward the "D" day. In fact, I don't know what the "D" day is.

He proposed marriage to you, you accepted, now he says his feelings have changed.

You need to ask him why.

talaniman
May 28, 2012, 02:22 PM
You have been together more than 2 years, so have you met each others families?

anysmit
Jun 2, 2012, 08:00 AM
It was the idea of meeting his parents that caused this thing... that is what he answered :(
And yeah
I was talking to him and he says he feels better now...

JudyKayTee
Jun 2, 2012, 08:23 AM
And did you "sort it out"?

anysmit
Jun 4, 2012, 12:00 PM
Yeah :D
A big thanks to all of u :)