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FIZA KHAN
May 24, 2012, 06:12 AM
Hello Doctor.. I am hasitating to ask you this question but I need to know this to save my child. I am 42 yr old. I had sex with my husband on 6th of May with condom.my last period date was 16th April. I had sex with my friend on 12th of May. I didn't get my period still.its 24th may today. Am I pregnant? If I am.Can you tell me whose baby is this? I am confused please help..
smoothy
May 24, 2012, 06:27 AM
Hello Doctor.. i am hasitating to ask u this question but i need to know this to save my child. i am 42 yr old. i had sex with my husband on 6th of May with condom.my last period date was 16th April. i had sex with my freind on 12th of May. i didnt get my period still.its 24th may today. am i pregnent? If i am.Can u tell me whose baby is this? I am confused please help..
Nobody can even GUESS at whoes kid that is... you will have to wait until its born to find out via DNA testing... of course.. that assumes you are actually pregnant.
Wait a few more weeks and take a test... and sweat it out until then... an if its positive... then its time to come clean with both men.
FIZA KHAN
May 24, 2012, 03:31 PM
Hello Doctor. I am more confused to hear your answer. You wrote to wait until few weeks to test if I am pregnant.whereas it can be found out just 10 days delay after last month period date.one more thing you said sweat until then.to make your pateint more nervous. And what did you mean by clean up with both mens. Can you explain me with simple words please. Thanks
DoulaLC
May 24, 2012, 04:17 PM
There is not a gyn/ob on the site, but others can answer your questions.
You will need to take a pregnancy test to find out. A blood test may let you know 10 days after ovulation, but it would depend on when you ovulate and few women know exactly when that is. It can take a bit longer, even with a blood test.
Since your period is already late, try a test. If the result is negative, wait and see what happens when you would expect your next period. If still no period, see your doctor again. At that time they will do another pregnancy test and likely an ultrasound as well.
It is possible that your period is off due to your age. Many women will start to experience irregular cycles when they are in their 40's. Periods can be off for other reasons as well.
It would be difficult to determine who the father might be as your dates were so close. Another concern again is age. As a woman gets older, her pattern of ovulation can be more likely to change. Normally, the odds would be that your husband is the father simply because of when your last period occurred. However, you can't know for sure.
As smoothy said, you would need to have DNA testing done after the baby is born (if you are indeed pregnant), to determine who the father is. "Coming clean" with both men means to be honest with both of them. If it turns out that you are pregnant, they both should be told that they could possibly be the father. Obviously this can cause you problems, which most certainly you should have thought of before having sex with both men.
Now all you can do is take a test.
smoothy
May 24, 2012, 04:55 PM
DoulaLC hit it spot on so no need for me to repeat it. Except this part.
You had sex with husband on May 6, today is May 24 that is 18 days ago... you cheated on husband and had sex with daddy candidate #2 on May 12, SInce today is may 24 that was 12 days ago...
Regardless of when your period might have started you are looking at roughly 2 weeks... ago this happened... home pregnancy tests are considered fairly accurate starting at the one month period... waiting a couple more weeks puts you at that one month period.