I am a straight female and I had a friend of the same sex who developed some heavy feelings for me and wanted me to be her girlfriend/mommy her kids.. well, I declined to date her and said we are just friends and I don't want to ruin that. Well, she told me to TRY HER,( I don't take threats lightly) and I don't care how long its been, if you were angry then, you are still angry now. She also told her family that she doesn't know why I stopped coming around and she wouldn't introduce me to anyone that she was with, when we were together.

Well, she stopped speaking to me for about a year and a half after all of this drama and she never apologized to me either for the mistreatment. Well, she's called me three times to try and get back in my life, but I don't feel the same way as she does and she just refuses to accept being my friend, and now she will no longer speak to me. Some people have called me homophobic over all of this. How does me declining to date my now ex-friend make me homophobic? She can't make me like women, nor make me want be with her.

I'm lost, and never did I ever think someone would ruin a friendship forever nor did I think I would lose someone forever over something like this. I know its wrong to question someone's sexuality, but this same sex stuff has really gotten out of hand. Crushing on someone of the same sex especially a friend could have some disastrous side effects and they should know that some feelings maybe hurt after all of this, but I don't think they should let that ruin their friendships. Can someone explain this to me?? I ran into her today and she was HEATED AT MY BUTT, after a year of bitterness and anger she's still mad at me... I don't understand why? I just wanted to be her friend. She kept glaring at me and she said hi to me with an attitude. She was straight ANGRY. Should I watch my back? (this is the third encounter with her) I think she wants to hurt me literally. What do you all think?

We haven't spoke in 6 months.. no contact whatsoever... I have nothing else to say to her. Yet, she's still pissed at me. When she seen me the other day she said hi Sasha and when I said hi to her and smiled, she glared at my azz and was pissed off. So that told the story. She's angry and will never forgive me or get over this. I don't take this lightly. I think she wants to rearrange my face

She has her own personal issues so don't take it personally, or expect her to deal with this issue as rationally as you did. Obviously she doesn't take rejection well, but that's her problem, not yours. Maybe you have reason to be careful, and cautious where she is concerned, but don't live in fear, or overreact to feelings of threat.

I want to say you have no reason to fear her physically, but I don't know her. She has done nothing so far, other than look crazy, or talk, and that's probably as far as it goes. But I cannot say, nor does it matter. What matters is that you don't dwell on her, her issues, and her actions unless she confronts you physically and directly.

Other wise hello, goodbye, and a smile are enough. And be cautious in case she is a crazy psycho nut, which we all can be. Forget friendship, she just doesn't know how, and maybe never will. The friendship experiment didn't work. That happens.

I 4got to mention she has stalked my house a few times... I don't know if she still does though.