underthegun
May 8, 2012, 12:26 PM
Hey guys, so I am meeting up with an ex girlfriend this week.
We've had no communication for the entire 16 months that we've been broken up, which felt needed. The breakup was mutual, and we had dated almost 6 years.
In the meantime, I dated another girl for about a year out of these 16 months, we've been broken up for about 8 weeks, no contact.
How it went down
I was going through and re-organizing old photos and videos on my computer and stumbled across some of me and the 6-year ex, with her niece in them, and thought that her brother (the niece's daddy) might want them, so I emailed them to her. She said 'thanks', asked me for some others of a trip we went on together, and then we started chatting about other things going on.
It felt natural for me to suggest getting tea together and chatting, so I did just that. She said 'sure', and we're meeting up this week. I'm still not sure if this was the best judgement call by me, but alas... it is in motion.
Now
So, what am I looking for? What do I want out of this? I'm really not sure, I just feel that we are both beyond the breakup, seeing it's been 16 months, and legitimately thought we could possibly now be 'friends', or just see how one another is doing, anyhow. She might even have a boyfriend for all I know, although I'm not sure she'd be willing to meet up with me if she did.
Any suggestions on how to handle the situation?
I plan on keeping the meeting short, simple, and light-hearted.
We've had no communication for the entire 16 months that we've been broken up, which felt needed. The breakup was mutual, and we had dated almost 6 years.
In the meantime, I dated another girl for about a year out of these 16 months, we've been broken up for about 8 weeks, no contact.
How it went down
I was going through and re-organizing old photos and videos on my computer and stumbled across some of me and the 6-year ex, with her niece in them, and thought that her brother (the niece's daddy) might want them, so I emailed them to her. She said 'thanks', asked me for some others of a trip we went on together, and then we started chatting about other things going on.
It felt natural for me to suggest getting tea together and chatting, so I did just that. She said 'sure', and we're meeting up this week. I'm still not sure if this was the best judgement call by me, but alas... it is in motion.
Now
So, what am I looking for? What do I want out of this? I'm really not sure, I just feel that we are both beyond the breakup, seeing it's been 16 months, and legitimately thought we could possibly now be 'friends', or just see how one another is doing, anyhow. She might even have a boyfriend for all I know, although I'm not sure she'd be willing to meet up with me if she did.
Any suggestions on how to handle the situation?
I plan on keeping the meeting short, simple, and light-hearted.