I will make this as short as possible. I met this guy, let's call him Ted. We met on his 15th birthday (2003). Dated for a couple months, I took his virginity, but then he moved away so we broke up obviously. He would still come to visit me from time to time but that slowly faded. Then in 2011, he had just gotten back from Afghanistan and I had just gotten out of a 4 year relationship. We randomly re-met at a bar and ended up dating (not a boyfriend, girlfriend, just dating) for 8 months. I assumed we were together because we spent so much time together, went out on dates, had sex, cuddled all that stuff, then one day he got a girlfriend. That was about 2 months ago.

I tried to stop talking to him but he would show up to my house, call and text me, talk through mutual friends. Long story short, we have been kind of dating (he still has a gf) for the last month. He texts me every day and night, we have sex (I am not lying when I say he is ALWAYS the one who instigates it and I say no about 50 times before I give in, I know, STUPID regardless) I have tried to stop talking to him but he knows where I live and always shows up (I don't have money to move), I changed my number but he found it out through our mutual friends, and because we have a TON of mutual friends, I always see him. I don't want to give up my friends; I just don't know what to do.

So I guess the question is "What am I supposed to do now?" I can't get over him if he is ALWAYS around can I?

He is always around because you let him be and then give him sex, because that's all he wants from you. I mean what lying cheater wouldn't take advantage of such an easy, willing screw, on the side? Any cheater would!

Learn to say NO, mean it, and stick to it. That's what you are supposed to do, IF you don't like to be used.