Sorry for the long rant...

I just don't know what to do. We have been together for 5 years, starting junior year in high school. We've been best friends for close to 11 years now. It seems like I have to be the grown up in the relationship. I had to push him to finish high school. After a year of him staying home and not going to college, I had to push him to apply for schools. He missed the deadline, so that pushed him back another year. He did search for a job, but I had to push him to make follow up calls. He just does not seem to want to do anything, even though he says he does. His parents still let their 35 year old nephew live in their basement, so BF could probably never leave home if he wanted to.

I'm starting my senior year of college, thinking about the future, and where I want to work. He'll be 1 year behind me if he even goes to college this year, so that makes me stay in my hometown for at least a year. I'm working full time this summer, and taking 2 summer college courses. He's also working full time. We hardly got to see each other before (I go to school in another state, come home on weekends) now its even worse.

I'm the one having to call him, he rarely calls me. He's skipping out on family gatherings (very important in my life). He'll tell me he will be there, and then calls at the last minute and say something came up. I really have just stopped relying on him anymore. I can see the relationship falling apart, and I really don't think we'll make it past this year if it continues this way.

I've known him for over half my life, and I don't want to lose him. I don't have real friend I can talk to, its just him. I don't know what I would do if I did not have him in my life. I couldn't image him dating anyone else, and it would kill me if he did.

Its really hard when you realize its time to cut someone loose, to let them go. But you are already leaving him behind. Sorry, but he has to decide for himself what he want to do with his life, NOT you pushing him to do what YOU think is best... even if it is!

Let him GO!! Follow your own dream!

Sorry for the long rant...

I just don't know what to do. We have been together for 5 years, starting junior year in high school. We've been best friends for close to 11 years now. It seems like I have to be the grown up in the relationship. I had to push him to finish high school. After a year of him staying home and not going to college, I had to push him to apply for schools. He missed the deadline, so that pushed him back another year. He did search for a job, but I had to push him to make follow up calls. He just does not seem to want to do anything, even though he says he does. His parents still let their 35 year old nephew live in their basement, so BF could probably never leave home if he wanted to.

I'm starting my senior year of college, thinking about the future, and where I want to work. He'll be 1 year behind me if he even goes to college this year, so that makes me stay in my hometown for at least a year. I'm working full time this summer, and taking 2 summer college courses. He's also working full time. We hardly got to see each other before (I go to school in another state, come home on weekends) now its even worse.

I'm the one having to call him, he rarely calls me. He's skipping out on family gatherings (very important in my life). He'll tell me he will be there, and then calls at the last minute and say something came up. I really have just stopped relying on him anymore. I can see the relationship falling apart, and I really don't think we'll make it past this year if it continues this way.

I've known him for over half my life, and I don't want to lose him. I don't have real friend I can talk to, its just him. I don't know what I would do if I did not have him in my life. I couldn't image him dating anyone else, and it would kill me if he did.

Hey you are very nice and caring. That does not mean you should be THAT nice to hurt yourself. Hey look back. Did you not try? Ehm... You are the one who kept pushing him. Sorry to say but try and stay away from pessimistic people. He might say I want to achieve this and that, but hey. Until a person does not get up and go on the path to that achievement they can carry on saying it. At the end of the day they are just saying it. That's about it. You are hard working and you deserve someone who is also hard working. And don't you dare saying you will kill yourself. Look killing yourself is not an option, but seeking the path that's right for you. The right path will give you the opportunity to meet those people who will guide you and walk with you throughout your journey of life.

If only your boyfriend really cares. He doesn't so let him be and you be yourself. You carry on living. Not seeking for another boyfriend but just keep walking through the right path. And believe me, you will find what's best for you. It simply requires strength to move on and carry on with a smile and hope. If he realises he misses out a lot without you, he will put his effort to get back to you, but don't fall behind for people who are not happy to raise their hand to you so you can pull them towards you.

Just wanted to clarify, I will not kill myself. It was just a figure of speech I guess. I just meant that I get on the verge of panic attacks when I think of not having him in my life.