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GirlLy
May 18, 2012, 07:15 PM
I'm 16 and I've had a lot of boyfriends. Not because of wrong things because I'm not sure what I really want and at times I get confused. I like bad boys Yu know the drug dealer, gang bangin type but I want a good guy because the good guys treat me right but they are so boring. So I tlk to 2 guys right now and ones a bad boy type and the other is a good guy. The bad guy is cute and he gets me sometimes. He's a drug dealer and he said he's going to get money and stack up so he can take care of me and get our own place. I feel like I've dated him before because I've dated his type so I don't trust him. He reminds me of one of my ex's. Nd I forever thought that my ex was faithful and everything but he wasn't. He told me he wanted me to have his kid and he wanted it soon because he said if something was to happen to him something of his would still be here in the world. And I'm only 16 I'm not ready to have any kids at all right now. Now the nice guy I've dated him before , but our relationship went dead after a while and we both needed a break so we took one. We just recently started talking again and he's been trying to make me his girl again ever since. I want to be because I know he adores me and I know that he will treat me right but after awhile I know he's going to bore me and I like the guys that have an edge to them. And we tend to argue over the dumiest things. And I think If we get back together that's going to happen again. The good guy kind of does but not really. Idk who to choose or what I should do please help. ~confused~

Fr_Chuck
May 18, 2012, 07:20 PM
How about dating none of them, since if you dated a lot by 16 it means you are not sure who you are and have a need to "have" someone.

First why does a good guy bore you, does that mean you are a bad girl, and why would a good guy want to date someone who has been hanging with bad boys,

Unless he wants the bad girl.

How about working on you and finding out who you are. If you are a druggie and like being used and being second to drugs and the such, then be a bad girl.

If you want someone who will care and respect you, then for the right person.

odinn7
May 18, 2012, 07:48 PM
This almost makes me laugh yet it's sad at the same time.

You know you are going to pick the bad boy... you know you are.
So many women I see (and know) pick the bad guy because they are so cool and not boring. The problem is, the bad guy is a piece of garbage usually. They treat you bad, cheat on you, disrespect you... sometimes even abuse you... yet you go for that type anyway because they aren't boring. How silly does that sound? And you admit this guy is trash... he's a drug dealer. Oh yeah, now there's an upstanding specimen of humanity.

My idiot sister is this way... even as an adult she does this. She always picked the bad guy... one of them abused her and almost killed her. Think she learned from that? Nope.

So go ahead... pick the bad guy so you aren't bored with someone who will treat you right and respect you... hell, why would you want that when you can have an exciting life with a drug dealer?

PS- at 16, you still have no clue what you want. You think you do, but you don't.