My ex girlfriend moved on after 2 months of our break up. She was my first girlfriend and we went out for 7 months before she broke it off with me. Even though we both had a talk and it was a "mutual" break up, I only agreed with her because she needed time to think everything over. Despite our break up, she wanted to continue being friends like we always have, so I agreed to that. I don't know if it was me reading into every single little thing, but I felt that she was pulling me along during our break up. Every little thing she did made me feel like she still loved me and wanted to get back together. She bought me presents all the time, and was always the first/last person I talked to everyday. Just yesterday a bombshell was dropped on me when I looked on Facebook and saw that she was in a relationship. The worst part is her new anniversary with her new boyfriend is our old anniversary date. What do I do? I can't help but feel that I was never really anything to her and that I was just a place holder for this new guy.

You leave her alone. You two are no longer dating. Go NC (no contact) until you are over her.

I've been in NC for a couple of days right now, and I have to say that it is one of the hardest things to do. I can't help but think about how she was able to move on so easily, it maybe a rebound, but regardless its painful to know. :p

I would imagine it is painful, but you'll get there.

I caved, I just talked to her and confessed all of my feelings that I held back before the first time I decided to go NC. I messed up, all she said was that I was a good kid and that I would find someone else. I now know that I'm completely gone from her eyes 100%. She told me about her new boyfriend and how she's happy with him. I have weak resolve and now I reap what I sow

Well now you know where you stand. You'll get there, it does get better

Thanks, I don't know how long it'll take but I know that ill be able to happy again someday. Hopefully I don't ever relapse again!

Well if you do and need to vent, we are here.
Good luck

So my ex-girlfriend just texted me, and told me that tomorrow she will be going to the same party that I am going to. She said that she wanted something's back, should I go?

No! Don't mate it will just be to awkward on your part. The best thing you can do is change your phone number and forget about her, delete her from Facebook and block her , hard to do granted. However as hard as it may seem now but Time truly does heal all.

Andy

I already did delete her from Facebook, and I can't change my phone number. I'm on my family phone plan. Also she wanted some of the things she gave me back, should I just go and return them then leave?

I did with my ex and it broke my heart, as childish as it may seem but I wish I had just left them at her doorstep and text her to tell her they were there.

Thanks for the advice Andy, I appreciate it :]. But I think I'm going to just give it to her and leave. If she crushes my heart it'll be easier for me to understand that there is no longer a place for me in her heart!

No worries buddy, good luck in the future, you will meet someone :)

Ill probably be back here tomorrow, if I need to vent. And thanks :] I hope all goes well for you too

Why do you have to give the things to her. Does she live with her parents, or have a friend that can give them to her. Why put yourself through this after you have decided to go NC?

Yeah maybe I shouldn't have gone today. At first every time I made eye contact she would look away, and when I would try to talk she gave me the cold shoulder. You're right homegirl 50 I ed up with my NC.
In the end I regretted going today, and she gave me back a bracelet I bought her from when I asked her out, a jewelry box, and an engraved christmas ornament with our names :P

Get back on the NC train my friend.

If she can move on, so can I!! And I will hop back on the NC train :]

Good for you.

Thanks for the advice Homegirl 50! I really appreciate it

You are welcome young man.
Glad I could help

I'm so weak, I'm still in NC, but I creeped up on my ex's new guy, and apparently there was a possibility of him going to jail, not anymore though. This new guy smokes and drinks, and is the complete opposite of how I was. While we were going out she would get mad if I did any of those things, so I don't understand how she could like someone like him. Is she rebounding? Also feel like I should just through this fact in here, we were both each others first boy/girl friend.

What she is doing and who she is doing it with is not your concern or business. Don't hamper your healing process by snooping in her business.

Its been 5 days of NC and its been going good up until this morning. I'll admit that I still thought about her a lot over these days, but I never let that bring my whole day down.
I had a dream that we were in her car, and she was driving me home. I confessed to her again and she rejected me telling me that there was no feelings left in her heart for me. Then her new boy came out of no where and they started to make out in front of me. I know this is just a dream and all, but this just brought my day completely down and I needed to vent this out :p
If y'all have any more advice it would be nice now :]