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angelcarebear
May 15, 2012, 07:11 AM
Hey all, okay so I been going out with this guy for few months and I had sex with him like few days ago and he used a condom and it was my first time and I'm not on the pill or I did not take anything after it ether but it was my first time and I have no idea how things work and I'm worried about getting pregnant like I know the condom is not 100% safe and in the future I don't want to get pregnant ether so do you know what can I do because its like I will have like once every two weeks maybe so maybe there's something I can take that won't make me get pregnant please help I can't go to my doctor because she is one of my parents good friends and I don't want my parents find out that I'm having sex please help
Fr_Chuck
May 15, 2012, 07:45 AM
Is this the guy ?
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-get-out-relationship-will-never-happened-656260.html
So don't have sex,
Act like a adult and go see your doctor ( who is not suppose to tell your parents anyway)
Find another doctor, has to be several in the area
jesse241122
May 15, 2012, 08:53 AM
There is a chance but there pretty effective,I have been using them for years.and no babies yet.
MeganMoo13
May 17, 2012, 05:25 PM
Either go one birth control or just trust the condom, it should be okay if it doesn't spilt/slip off... in that case then get a morning after pill, but don't use it unless you need to.
Alty
May 17, 2012, 05:33 PM
Oi. Don't listen to Jesse or Megan, they're likely teens just like you, and have no idea.
There is no birth control method on the market that is 100% effective. If I had a penny for every person that I know personally, that got pregnant while on the pill, using a condom, and using another form of birth control as well, I'd be rich.
The only way to prevent pregnancy is to abstain (not have) sex. If you have sex, even with protection, even with 3 different forms of protection, then pregnancy is possible. If you're not ready to be a mother, then you're not ready to have sex. That's the bottom line.
DoulaLC
May 17, 2012, 05:46 PM
I have to agree with Fr_Chuck. It sounds as though this is the same man from your other post. If so, why are you having sex with him? Why are you even seeing him? He is using you.
Do not be fooled into thinking that if you have sex with him that it will improve how he treats you or that he will leave his other relationship for you. It won't happen, and if you do end up pregnant, then what will you do? No form of birth control, or even two forms used together, will be 100% effective. Pregnancy will always be a possibility.
Want to know just what he thinks of you? Tell him that you decided not to have sex anymore until you are in a more committed relationship. See what his reaction is.
Break it off with him and find someone who is actually available to be with you and not just seeing you on the side.
When you do decide to have sex again, be smart and see your doctor about your birth control options. If you can't see your own, see a different doctor. Find out about any pregnancy centers or some similar locations that might offer different forms of birth control.
Consider holding off on having sex until you are able to discuss it with your doctor and not be afraid that your parents may find out.