My boyfriend and I are 26 years old and we have 2 kids. A 6yr old and a 1yr old. After our 1yr old was born we basically threw ourselves into work and now we barely have time to spend with each other. Anyway,lately we only have sex once a month, if even and he says it because he's tired. And like everyone always says "it wasn't like that in the beginning". Which it definitely wasn't. I have a VERY high sex drive and I love him very much so I would never consider cheating. He always says he's too tired which I can understand sometimes because I get tired too but unfortunately my vagina has a mind of it's own and his is driving me nuts. To top it off, I went through his phone and noticed that he watches porn damn near everyday. ( started thinking there was something wrong with me and maybe he's cheating so don't judge). I tried taking the initiative but it doesn't work and why bother at this point because lately I feel like why should I bother trying for 5 minutes of love with no foreplay. Basically bs that won't get me off anyway. I feel like an old retired grandma and myself esteem has taken a big hit. I really don't know what to do. He's very affectionate and we snuggle up every night before bed. Our sex life is just dead even though he seems to have a good one between his hand and phone. Help I really need advice.