evans52388
May 13, 2012, 04:06 PM
Hello,
Well I am absolutely furious beyond explanation. My girlfriend and I moved into our first apartment by ourselves. We lived in an apartment once before but with roommates. When the lease was up, we moved out and moved into my parents' home. Needless to say, it was rocky; all we wanted was to be in our own home alone, we felt as though we deserved it.
Well about a month ago we moved in. Upon move in she brought up the idea to make an agreement that no one was going to come over until we are completely settled in. We basically wanted to soak up the fact that it's just the two of us. Well the first day we moved in her mother came over. I don't really care for her because she has always treated my girlfriend like someone off the street; and I don't like seeing it; despite my feelings toward her I didn't mind that she was there. A couple weeks later on Easter her aunt dropped her cousin off for a couple hours. I didn't mind so I didn't bring up the agreement that she insisted we make. A few weeks later her aunt and mother returned to our home. Again I didn't bring up the agreement; I didn't mind.
On Friday her aunt called again asking my girlfriend if they could come over and get into the Jacuzzi and apparently if her cousin could spend the night. My girlfriend didn't tell me anything; we went to the store and her aunt called saying that they were at the apartment. My girlfriend told me to go back home; as I was driving she told me that they were there to get into the Jacuzzi and that her cousin was going to spend the night and asked me if it was okay. She said she wanted to ask before anything. What really irritated me was that she said she was "asking" me as if I really had the decision, she already told her aunt that her cousin could spend the night so what's the point in even asking me what I thought about it??
When we got to the apartment I was pretty irritated so I decided just to blow off steam and go to my parents' house for a couple hours. When I got home at around at 11pm both my girlfriend and her cousin were in my bedroom lying in bed... I ended up having to sleep on the couch... this irritated me even more... In the morning my girlfriend had to work at 9am I had to work at 2pm. While my girlfriend was at work her aunt calls me asking if I could take Sara (my girlfriend's cousin) home which was about 20 miles away because she had just caught her boyfriend cheating on her and was going to need help moving out of the house. I told her no because I had to go to work... this PISSED me off. It's not my responsibility to do that! She told me she'd be there at 5 to pick her up, which was the time that my girlfriend got off work. I ended up having to leave with my girlfriend's cousin in the house by herself.
When I got home from work at 11pm again my girlfriend and her cousin were upstairs asleep... again I was kicked on the couch... I was furious... I went upstairs and began packing some of my things to go to my parents' house. My girlfriend woke up and asked me why I was packing my clothes so I told her immediately she says "oh it's because Sara's here huh?? Your just mad because she's here" that pissed me off even further. I told her I was angry because she didn't talk to me about her cousin staying there and brought up the agreement that we made when moving in and how her family has been coming over but none of my friends or family has. I felt hurt and angry because it was as if she was allowed to have anyone over but I'm not, as if she makes all the rules.
Anyway I left last night and spent the night at my parents' house. My girlfriend worked at 8am and apparently her cousin was still there until around 1pm or so when her aunt came to pick her up they left the door UNLOCKED! My girlfriend called me telling me I need to go home lock it. I was INFURIATED! I'm nowhere near the apartment and cannot go and lock the door so it remained unlocked until 3pm. ON TOP OF IT ALL SHE ALLOWED HER AUNT TO DRINK ALL OF MY BEERS IN THE FRIDGE
I told my girlfriend I am going to stay at my parents' house for a few days. I don't want to see or talk to her until I have cooled off. I feel like I don't have a say in my own home. I pay the majority of the rent and bills. I work 6 days week; she only works Friday-Sunday and complains because I'm never there. I feel like I'm only there to pay the bills and that's it. What do you guys think? Did I blow this situation out of proportion?
Well I am absolutely furious beyond explanation. My girlfriend and I moved into our first apartment by ourselves. We lived in an apartment once before but with roommates. When the lease was up, we moved out and moved into my parents' home. Needless to say, it was rocky; all we wanted was to be in our own home alone, we felt as though we deserved it.
Well about a month ago we moved in. Upon move in she brought up the idea to make an agreement that no one was going to come over until we are completely settled in. We basically wanted to soak up the fact that it's just the two of us. Well the first day we moved in her mother came over. I don't really care for her because she has always treated my girlfriend like someone off the street; and I don't like seeing it; despite my feelings toward her I didn't mind that she was there. A couple weeks later on Easter her aunt dropped her cousin off for a couple hours. I didn't mind so I didn't bring up the agreement that she insisted we make. A few weeks later her aunt and mother returned to our home. Again I didn't bring up the agreement; I didn't mind.
On Friday her aunt called again asking my girlfriend if they could come over and get into the Jacuzzi and apparently if her cousin could spend the night. My girlfriend didn't tell me anything; we went to the store and her aunt called saying that they were at the apartment. My girlfriend told me to go back home; as I was driving she told me that they were there to get into the Jacuzzi and that her cousin was going to spend the night and asked me if it was okay. She said she wanted to ask before anything. What really irritated me was that she said she was "asking" me as if I really had the decision, she already told her aunt that her cousin could spend the night so what's the point in even asking me what I thought about it??
When we got to the apartment I was pretty irritated so I decided just to blow off steam and go to my parents' house for a couple hours. When I got home at around at 11pm both my girlfriend and her cousin were in my bedroom lying in bed... I ended up having to sleep on the couch... this irritated me even more... In the morning my girlfriend had to work at 9am I had to work at 2pm. While my girlfriend was at work her aunt calls me asking if I could take Sara (my girlfriend's cousin) home which was about 20 miles away because she had just caught her boyfriend cheating on her and was going to need help moving out of the house. I told her no because I had to go to work... this PISSED me off. It's not my responsibility to do that! She told me she'd be there at 5 to pick her up, which was the time that my girlfriend got off work. I ended up having to leave with my girlfriend's cousin in the house by herself.
When I got home from work at 11pm again my girlfriend and her cousin were upstairs asleep... again I was kicked on the couch... I was furious... I went upstairs and began packing some of my things to go to my parents' house. My girlfriend woke up and asked me why I was packing my clothes so I told her immediately she says "oh it's because Sara's here huh?? Your just mad because she's here" that pissed me off even further. I told her I was angry because she didn't talk to me about her cousin staying there and brought up the agreement that we made when moving in and how her family has been coming over but none of my friends or family has. I felt hurt and angry because it was as if she was allowed to have anyone over but I'm not, as if she makes all the rules.
Anyway I left last night and spent the night at my parents' house. My girlfriend worked at 8am and apparently her cousin was still there until around 1pm or so when her aunt came to pick her up they left the door UNLOCKED! My girlfriend called me telling me I need to go home lock it. I was INFURIATED! I'm nowhere near the apartment and cannot go and lock the door so it remained unlocked until 3pm. ON TOP OF IT ALL SHE ALLOWED HER AUNT TO DRINK ALL OF MY BEERS IN THE FRIDGE
I told my girlfriend I am going to stay at my parents' house for a few days. I don't want to see or talk to her until I have cooled off. I feel like I don't have a say in my own home. I pay the majority of the rent and bills. I work 6 days week; she only works Friday-Sunday and complains because I'm never there. I feel like I'm only there to pay the bills and that's it. What do you guys think? Did I blow this situation out of proportion?