Hey, just here for some advice since I'm in a tough spot in life. To start I've been seeing this girl, my age (17, almost 18) and we really like each other so we talked a the time, hung out, had sex, etc, but she wasn't my girlfriend? At first I didn't want to date and she did, but then I finally wanted to after like 2 weeks but here's where it gets tough.

I live 45 minutes away from her, even though we go to school together and spend together it's always really rushed or short. It seems like she's losing interest too. She barely texts me anymore unless I text her first and when we do talk she doesn't seem to hold a conversation at all.. I don't understand why there's such a sudden change? This all happened in a matter of days and the only thing I can think of is prom which was 2 days ago. She was fine until prom, (I didn't go with her btw)..

So, I think it's pretty much over between me and her but the thing is I don't want to be and it's making my days drag and go so slow. I feel like until I talk to her or be with her, but she won't keep a conversation with me.. I know I will get over it eventually but what do I do until then? I don't like to party and get really drunk so I don't exactly have lots of friends. Like I'm not socially awkward or anything it's just I don't like to party, so I never go out and because I live 45 minutes away it's not easy to just go in and hangout with friends.

I'm really bored out here, and I am really sad. I basically have no social support besides my parents. Any suggestions on what to do? I know I can find a hobbie, which I do (I go snowmobiling, quading, swimming, etc) but its hard cause all my friends are so far away and its boring to do by yourself.

Suggestions are appreciated, thanks..

She wanted to be your girl friend, but you did not, you had sex with her, did not take her to the prom and you wonder why she is not talking to you ?

I would say you need to grow up and learn how to treat women better..

We talked about it, she was fine with not dating. I told her before prom that I wanted to date, and she said wait till after to prom. And believe me.. I wanted to take her to prom but she had a date before I even started talking to her.

"talked all the time, hung out, had sex, etc." Why is it that having sex just seems to be recreation when you are still getting to know someone?

Anyway... maybe she likes the guy she went to prom with? Was this someone she had been dating before? She may have had sex with you in hopes that it would sway your decision to start dating her (poor reasoning on her part if that was the case).

Maybe ask her what her feelings are now. Ask if she still wants to date. Ask her on a date and see what happens. Tell her outright that it seems she is not as interested as she was before and see what she says.

It is rough when you don't live close to friends. Are any of them able to drive to where you are? Any chance of meeting up somewhere half way between? What things are there to do in the town where you live besides partying? You are smart not to get caught up in the drinking and partying, but it can be very hard if there isn't much to do. Anything in other towns fairly close by?

Do you work? If not, would it be possible to get a part-time job? That could help with occupying some of your time and you would get to meet more people that way as well.

No, she doesn't like the guy she went to prom with, she actually hated prom, her date ended up getting taken home by the cops so I know that's not it.. I asked her what her feelings were and if she was losing interest and she said "idk, it's hard not to" (because of where I live).

I can drive, so going in town to see my friends isn't an issue it just get really expensive after awhile since my friends like to party they never really want to hangout. Other things to do, you.. biking, skateboarding, snowmobiling, dirtbiking which I do do but that's about it.. it's a fairly small town (30,000 people) too so there's really not much to do.

I do work yes, I work 8-2pm then I go to school till 3:30, then I go home.. it's when I'm at home that I feel like this.

I don't know... 45 minutes away is not that far if you are interested in someone. You can see each other in school and go out maybe once or twice a week and talk regularly. Still ask her out and see if it leads anywhere. I'd consider holding off on the sex however... find other ways to spend your time. Pregnancy is always going to be a possibility, even if you use protection, and the timing of something like that, especially with someone you are not even serious about, would be a major issue.

One way you could fill some of your time, and be very helpful as well, is to answer some questions you see on this site... :) Can always use more of a teen perspective with some of the questions.

I know some people find gaming communities, or other interests, online and make friends that way. You wouldn't want to spend hours online, but some time spent here and there, doing something you have fun with and getting to know the other people who also are involved, can be an enjoyable way to spend some time.

Sounds as though you might need to make a few new friends who aren't into the partying... or at least not as much into it. Anyone from work you could do things with?
Do you graduate this year? If so, working on any college plans?

You will find that things can change greatly in your life once you get passed high school.

I want to ask her out again, but her lack of interest in me turns me off in a way, I want to talk it out with her but she gives me these bull one word answers "ok, lol, why, no".

I do graduate this year yes, but college isn't that just a more intoxicated version of high school? I don't exactly need to go to college. I have a decent, well paying job. Which is another problem. I know teens get jobs to make friends, but my job isn't at McDonalds or anything it's a legit job where my coworkers are like 10 years older then me.

I know graduating will change my perspective on things but I want more of a social life with people who don't like to get hammered every weekend.. but the only way to do that is to lower my standards which I don't want to do. I like my friends, just not what my friends like to do.

Reason I came here is because I just needed to talk about it for social support and help me get over this. I can't talk about it with my parents because it'll make them feeling like it's their fault (because we moved so far away).

But for real, thanks for all the advice.. it really does help.

Any other girls you are interested in? Ask her out anyway. Maybe things will change as you get to know each other more. If it turns out she isn't interested, and that in turn causes you to lose interest, then you move on. That is what part of dating is for... getting to know different people and learning what you like and don't like.

College is really what you make of it. You can certainly find plenty of people who just want to continue their high school ways, but you will find that there is often a large difference in ages these days. I had people in my classes who were just out of high school and others who were in their 20's up through some in their 50's making a career change.

That's one of the great things about college, it really allows you to meet and get to know a greater number of people from different backgrounds. You could always discuss it with your boss or supervisor and see if some type of certification or degree would enhance your future prospects in that company or a similar one.

You're a smart guy, that is evident in some of the choices you have made. Good luck!