AnnaGabrielle
May 13, 2012, 12:56 AM
My husband and I have found ourselves in the interesting position of raising my very childish 18 year old sister. She ran away for home to live with her drug dealing meth addicted boyfriend, and we didn't see her for months, until she showed up on my doorstep and told me she was pregnant, homeless, and had left the boyfriend. She was filthy, and obviously has been abusing drugs, although I believe she has stopped since finding out she is pregnant. We are both estranged from our parents because they are extremely abusive, and I am the only family she has. I am also only 7 years older then her and she has no respect for me, my home, or my rules.
Just tonight, after my husband and I repeatedly told her that it was inappropriate for a mom to be to go to an out of town illegal rave, that we were afraid that she could be arrested and/or get hurt out of town and we wouldn't be able to get to her quickly, she lied to us and went anyway. Her excuse is always that she is 18 and an "adult". And when I tell her she can not live here and act that way she says "what are you going to do, throw me out when I am pregnant with your niece or nephew?" And of course we won't, because if we are not there to remind her of Dr appointments or to take her vitamins or not to drink caffeine, she will neglect this pregnancy.
My husband and I are so afraid that we will end up raising a child with special needs because of her lack of concern, we are already certain that we will end up raising this child anyway. We don't have children yet for a reason, we are newlyweds and just purchased our first home, we want to be enjoying the early years of our marriage, and this is something that we didn't think we would have to deal with for years. It has quickly become too much for us, but there is literally no one else to help her. Any advice is appreciated!
Just tonight, after my husband and I repeatedly told her that it was inappropriate for a mom to be to go to an out of town illegal rave, that we were afraid that she could be arrested and/or get hurt out of town and we wouldn't be able to get to her quickly, she lied to us and went anyway. Her excuse is always that she is 18 and an "adult". And when I tell her she can not live here and act that way she says "what are you going to do, throw me out when I am pregnant with your niece or nephew?" And of course we won't, because if we are not there to remind her of Dr appointments or to take her vitamins or not to drink caffeine, she will neglect this pregnancy.
My husband and I are so afraid that we will end up raising a child with special needs because of her lack of concern, we are already certain that we will end up raising this child anyway. We don't have children yet for a reason, we are newlyweds and just purchased our first home, we want to be enjoying the early years of our marriage, and this is something that we didn't think we would have to deal with for years. It has quickly become too much for us, but there is literally no one else to help her. Any advice is appreciated!