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mistykim
May 10, 2012, 08:44 PM
I love my boyfriend. He said he love me too. We have been together for 2 years. I thought he is a wonderful and great guy. But now but he is working in Africa and I was diagnosed with cancer. He was the one who forced me to have a checkup when I told him over the phone about my health issues. Then when he learned about it he was helping me for my medical needs. Always telling me that I have to cheer up and fight my disease because I have him.

I appreciate it but sometimes I feel bad at myself that I have to depend from him for money matters and emotional issues most of the time... lately we quarrel a lot over the phone... he said he still loves me and will love me until forever but he said I give him stress... every time we talk on the phone he complains it is very expensive so no need to talk long time. I think if I feel hurt every time we quarrel I always think it is my fault so I ask sorry but how about him?

I think if he really love me he will listen to me when I am trying to talk to him about my feelings... what do you think should I do? Do you think he really still love me? Or should I just forget about him... what I do?

kjohnston
May 11, 2012, 03:23 AM
I know how you're feeling. My mum recently got diagnosed with breast cancer and times have been tough. Maybe you should ask the questions you're asking us, to him.

Pour your heart out to him and be honest about how you're feeling.
Maybe if you open up to him then he will open up to you more.

talaniman
May 11, 2012, 11:15 AM
Why not simply tell him of your need to get your feelings out, and to just listen? That gives him some understanding as men often take venting emotions as nagging, or putting pressure on them. Be direct and let him know what you need and expect, but don't expect him to play emotional tampon ALL the time.

Sometimes you need more emotional out lets other than him and that's what girlfriends are for. If he is your ONLY outlet, you need to correct that! Sometimes its reasonable though, that he listens.

lawspawsxx
May 12, 2012, 04:53 PM
I know exactly how you feel. I recently got diagnosed with an illness and my ex helped me for months an told me he could deal wit it and loved me bla bla bla but then ended it.. I don't know wa you should do but if he ends it he isn't worth it your better then that and when you get better hell regret finishing it