I added some info: he is a scorpio and I am a capricorn 1960/1980


I met my ex a year ago a few months after I relocated. He is 44 and I am 25. He was and is still in the middle of a divorce(has not lived with her for over a year) He had just left a 3 mth relationship with a girl. I did not know about this. He dated me for 2 months solely. Slowly she has come back into the picture. He has bounced back and forth between the 2 of us for now a year. I have allowed this to happen but he has also filled my head with many hopes and promises. I have so many more things I know he likes better but cannot for the life of me figure out why he is back with her, and has left me again! I am more attractive, less embarrassing(educated, etc), no kids, no baggage. I know that I have made myself too available and she is 4 yrs older than me and may be more experienced. Other than that we have had a WONDERFUL relationship together. (Laughing, partying, great communication, etc)

My question is, will he come back? I have fallen so hard and need to get over him if he is not returning. I don't think I have ever been so brokenhearted and taken aback by a man. With me only living here a year, he and his friends, lifestyle is the only thing I know. Now I have no friends and my only contact with people is my 2 people office or my mother. Please I hope you can tell me something.

Ps: I believe that the reason he did not fall as hard is because I made myself too available and did not play hard to get (being a new person in a new city) I feel I just never gave him a challenge. If I had it to do over, he would have to work for me. :(

Dear lady,
Men that play games in the middle of a relationship will never be faithful. Yes you made a mistake giving in too easily. (should be a lesson) You have no baggage, he does and might pickup even more (VD) He got the wrong idea about you (giving in) Join a reputable computer match place and please chose carefully...

You are right, the hardest part, though, is letting go. Its like I just moved here all over again and all the progress I made was in vain. (meeting new people & friends) My parents are taking bets he will be back to reak even more havoc and pain on my life. I just wish I knew the trick to being strong and moving on. I want him to hurt like I have, but I guess that is God's department.

Dear lady,
Everybody gets caught at the end. His number will come up. Your parents bet is right. If you can, change phone numbers. This man is just jumping from bed to bed. You don't want that. I'm not a Jesus freak but power of prayer works. When the right time comes, your heart will tell you. Meanwhile, take up a hobby. I'm growing Bonzai trees and indoor trees for free info [email protected]