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xojuicy
May 8, 2012, 07:46 PM
When I was 10, my mom left my dad, brother & me. My dad was VERY hurt and it took him a long time to get over it. I honestly still don't think he's over it.

When I was 12, I caught my dad on the computer looking on different dating websites. I was very upset about this because I as a young child couldn't possibly think of him with anyone else besides my mom.

The day I met my dad's girlfriend I knew I didn't like her. I can't even begin to explain how much I hate her for making my teenage years the worst years of my life. She honestly hates me for NO reason. She seemed very nice but a little bit off her rocker to say the least when I first met her, but after she moved in with her son into our house I came to realize she is a complete lunatic.

Every job she gets she loses in a matter of a month, she is on unemployment & disability.. I don't know what for. She goes to the doctor almost every week & has over 10 different capsules of prescriptions. She starts intense fights that last for days with me and my dad over little things that I do such as: taking my shoes off at the door and not bringing them up to my room, making certain foods, showering without being given permission or leaving a towel in the bathroom, eating/drinking anything that was "specifically bought" for my dad to have; even if he says its okay for me to eat... etc.

I am 18 years old and have to ask permission to do almost anything around my own house or else a fight will break out that will last for weeks. These little things seem like they aren't a big deal at all... but honestly when you live with the same constant fighting over petty bull for 6 years it can honestly drive you crazy.

When my dad isn't home, she will walk by my bedroom door and mutter "" "slut" "tramp" & other words, and she has even convinced my grandmother (my dad's mom) to start hating me. I haven't done anything to the woman but she seriously hates me.

My dad can barely talk to me anymore... We have casual conversations for maybe 5 minutes a day, and any time he even tries talking to me she throws a huge temper tantrum complaining that he never gives her any attention and that I "always win" and I "always have to get everything I want".. She will talk on the phone to people about how I am ruining her life, I'm the biggest brat, I'm so stuck up and how I'm the biggest pain in the to live with.

All I honestly do is either go out & avoid being home or sit in my room with the door locked. My brother moved out but when he is around he can see how rude she is to me and is convinced she has problems. I don't even know how to describe it. Some times I will just take so much of her bull that I'll blow up and just scream at her to shut up. Once I left for two nights because she picked a fight with me because I had my friend over after school. I ended up having to stay with my friend because the fight became physical. She grabbed me and threw me down and I got back up and punched her in the face. My dad got in the middle and the look on his face just broke my heart.

He is definitely torn but I feel like he tries his best to take my side without having her lose her mind. I honestly just don't know why my dad is with her. He is the most sensible, stubborn person I know & I've always known him as someone who doesn't put up with anyone's bull. I don't have a clue why he is even interested in her as he just laughs and agrees when I say she's crazy.

She just wakes up at noon and sits on her butt all day and night in my living room every day. She picks fights over NOTHING and it seriously is driving me insane. My dad is always so stressed about us fighting and she will stop at nothing to convince him that I'm the problem. I love my dad more than anything in the world but I seriously don't know what to do anymore. Help. :(

Fr_Chuck
May 8, 2012, 08:50 PM
It would appear that even "Mary Poppins" would not have had a chance to be honest, you started it off by being selfish not understanding that your dad was hurt by your MOM running off and that he needed someone new because of many reasons in a mans life.

So you hated her from day one and most likely make it clear. So this was a relationship that was doomed.

If you came into my house and left your shoes somewhere around the door, left towels laying around the bath room, and more, you would be yelled at , at my home also.
So why are you living like a slob and not cleaning up after yourself, it is not her place or your dad to clean up after someone who is a teen. My pre teen, does his own laundry, has learned to cook some of the meals for everyone, and yes, if certain food was bought for specific reasons, you should have honored it.

It is obvious that you are not trying to make it work, the actual physical attack has not excuse but you are 18, so move out if you no longer are happy there.

manbrolius
Jun 3, 2012, 09:15 PM
This isn't fair, my situation with my stepmother is very similar. We do not get along. My parents have always had high expectations of me and I tend to meet them, however, like most teenagers, I slip up every once in a while. My stepmom claims that every time I do something wrong, it is a personal attack upon her (as if the best I can think of to get back at her is do my laundry at 12:11 as opposed to before noon) when she herself constantly insults my biological mother when they've never spoke. I tried to be friends with her, but we never were. It's been nine years since they were married when I was seven. My evidence that your wrong is on the other side of my family. My mom has been married to my stepdad for four years now, and he's one of my favorite people on the planet, EVEN THOUGH he is more strict than my mom. He can be very stern and passive aggressive but despite that, he's a great person and I love him. The same cannot be said for my stepmother.

krissyw13
Jun 9, 2012, 01:52 PM
I have the exact problem with my stepmom she hates my guts and calls me "ungrateful" and she always says I get whatever I want and I am sick of it