I been his fool for so long, I want out.. we live in different states.. he comes to visit twice a month, I don't love him.. anymore, I guess I woke up.. he will never be my husband , I feel cheated out of my life... waiting on him.

Of course you can get rid of him, just don't let him in next time, don't answer the door, if he has a key , change the locks. Call and tell his wife about the affair if he will not stay away,

I been his fool for So long, I want out..we live indifferent states..he come to visit twice a month, I don't love him..anymore, I guess I woke up..he will never be my husband , I feel cheated out of my life...waiting on him...

You're right. You have been cheated out of your life.He has it made, wife and lover whenever he wants. Why should he be in a hurry to leave, he has the best of both worlds. After 30 years of living on hopes, dreams, and lies you know what to do GET OUT!! GET OUT NOW. If you can, move away to another state or if not move as far away as you can so you won't be confronted with him. Change your phone and cell phone numbers. Make it clear you have finally opened your eyes and don't like what you see. If you don't make the move, nothing will change. How much clearer could he make it. He doesn't love you, he uses you.
You've wasted enough time, get out there and get a life before it is too late.
You've lost 30 years, don't lose any more. Get involved with a support group to help you stay strong and focused. Best of luck.