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oscar3879
May 7, 2012, 06:38 PM
I'm 16, play sports and I'm a little overweight. My dad every day yells at me for being lazy, never going to achieve in my life, when all I do every day is go to school then practice and when I get home I do all the chores and my homework. I don't really like playing sports but the only reason I do is because I want him to feel proud to be my dad but all he does is insult me saying I suck, I'm lazy , etc. I'm an average student A's and B's but all he does is yell at me for not getting all A's then telling me I'm not going anywhere in life. He's always telling me to be like someone else that I'm not good enough and that really hurts when all I do all day every day is work hard to make him proud. Most of the time I think about running away or suicide, but by the end of the day I just lay in bed and cry myself to sleep. Can someone please tell me what I can do?

C0bra_M3nace
May 25, 2012, 09:46 AM
You need to stand up for yourself! Talk to him, tell him how you feel, tell him what you just told us! He probably has no idea you feel this way if he's ignorant enough to say those things. You never know, he might mean well, maybe that's the only way he knows how to try and motivate you. Communication my friend, it's the key to all your problems.

Kitkat323
May 25, 2012, 11:47 AM
I'm sure your dad loves you very much, but he does sounds like an unhappy man and most likely is projecting his problems onto you.. I agree with C0bra M3nace, you should try to talk to your dad.. Also maybe see if you can talk to a student counsellor about your situation since you mentioned thinking about running away and suicide most of time which is very worrying.

Fr_Chuck
May 25, 2012, 11:56 AM
He is wanting better for you than he did or has most likely, Very likely unhappy with some things in his life and is wanting to relive it though your life.

If you don't "like" to do sports don't, you will not be good at it and are wasting your time.

michael175
May 25, 2012, 02:14 PM
Suicide is never the answer think about it your young and got a whole life in front of you. Think of it this way I felt the same way but with my step dad I use to cry myself to sleep at night he use to call me all the names under the sun throw things at me I use to stay in after school clubs so I don't come home to agrow and mum never saw it and never listened when told her now I'm 23 married with 2 children and couldn't be happier with my life good things come to people that wait. And I agree with all the other answers and deep inside I bet he's proud of you but you need to stick up for yourself and it is hard to do but the worst thing to do is shout when you confront him. Don't copy me I ran away and ended up straight back and it gives them more words to say to you like I knew you'll come running back and stuff like that. He probably does want the best for you but he's going the wrong way about it I wish you all the best and hope you get this sorted out soon SUICIDE A BIG NO NO think of the future its full of mysterys trust me

Wondergirl
May 25, 2012, 02:41 PM
Your dad is maybe remembering himself when he was your age and hoping to get you to achieve the way he wished he would have achieved. His dad (or mom) very probably did the same thing to him as he is doing to you.

Parents often relive their childhood through their own children. When things are quiet between the two of you, ask if he will give you tips for the sports you play, like the two of you going to the park or into the back yard to kick around a soccer ball or play catch or whatever. Also, ask him who his favorite teacher was and why or who his least favorite teacher was and why or ask what gym class was like, or ask about the girls and if he had a crush on a cheerleader, etc. (Adults like to talk about their school days.) In this way, you can make a connection with him and he will see that you are trying.