g_gomez
May 7, 2012, 11:13 AM
How can I reconcile with my soul mate? Should I continue attending her Church since her father(Pastor) has told me he would like for me to continue attending regardless?
I met the girl of my dreams on a Christian dating site on 1/27/12 in person for the first time. We met at a restaurant since I am the first person she ever met in person from any site. We had an Amazing connection and since two hours of talking flew by we decided to go to the movies on the other side of the plaza to prolong our date. On the second date I picked her up and her father and mother interviewed me for over two hours and her father actually liked me and invited me to their Church since he is a Pastor and her whole family is extremely religious and have two Church services a week(Sundays and Tuesdays). He even welcomed me to the family and after that we had our first hug and it was very special since she was happy he accepted me since I am the first guy she has ever brought home. On the third date we went to the movies and I played the piano for her and on the fourth date she met my mother and aunt and they liked her since she is very gifted and she plays the piano, guitar, sings, and translates for her Church. That same day on our fourth date she shared things about her life that she had never shared before and we talked about how we were meant to be and even about marriage since everything was so perfect. On the 5th date we went out for Valentines Day and she paid for the dinner and gave me a huge bear and gifts to my surprise. On the 6th date she became my Gf and a week later I became her first kiss ever and she was beyond nervous and happy.
From that point on we became very attached and we would go out four days a week even though we both work a lot and attend college. Our first month was a dream come true and she even told me that I was more than she could have ever dreamed of and how she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me and we talked about how eager we were to grow old together. She made me promise her that I would never give up on her or leave her and I did since she is my soul mate. Even her mother told us that she could see us marrying down the road and her uncle told me that we were meant to be. People at her Church said we were a couple made in heaven even strangers would randomly comment on how great of a couple we were. After a month of being together I started showing insecurities and fears of her leaving me and I would question and doubt her a lot since she didn't text me on her break and later on she posted on Facebook she had been eating luch with a guy instead. We began having little arguments and she would always reassure me that she would be mines forever and not to worry sick since I would she was mines forever. Then she met my Grandma, aunt, and best friend and we had the most amazing time ever on Easter Day when I brought them to Church. Then that Wednesday(4/11/12)
she told me she needed space since I think she got upset I had complained about her not texting me goodnight and I begged for her not to do that to me but finally agreed on Thursday on giving her time. After two days of silence on Saturday(4/14/12) she broke up with me via a text message and I was crushed since our two month anniversary would have been three days later. That night Sunday morning she called me at 5am and I tried to sound calm which I could tell worried her and we talked for two hours since I had to be at work at 8am.After work later on that night I then saw her after Church and tried to hold her hand while in my car but she resisted but later on gave in and we kissed. Then on Tuesday(4/17/12) after Church I went with her to her house and her mom told me not to worry that I was part of the family regardless if we are broken up or not and afterwards I went out with my soul mate and by the end of the night she held my hand and we hugged for half hour at her door and she told me that she still Loved me but that even though she wants me back something is stopping her but that we can go out as friends. Then on Thursday(4/19/12) I went to see her and she was very cold and told me that we should no longer hang out and for me to be free and forget our promises. I cried and she didn't seem to care. Then on Sunday(4/22/12) after Church I went to her house since her mom invited me and when I left I called my soul mate and she asked to never call her again and that I should move on but that I'm still welcome to her Church. Then on Tuesday(4/24/12) at Church I helped her translate since she seemed nervous and was getting stuck or at loss of words and the service was about reconciling which I thought would touch her heart and make her give me a chance but after Church she ignored me so I left without saying bye which probably upset her and when I came back home I saw that she had deleted every single pic of us together, every comment, and all of our statuses and then she deleted me from Facebook which hurt so much. The next day Wednesday(4/25/12) I called her three times and on the fourth time she blocked my number. Then she called me a few hours later and told me that we are over and I told her that I don't believe that she could possibly be over me after all of the feelings she had shown towards me though out our relationship. I also told her that I would do anything to make things better between us and to forgive me for ever doubting her and she refused to accept. Later that night I texted her asking how she was doing and she never replied. Then I completely stopped texting and calling her I even skipped Church for the first time on Sunday(4/27/12) since I was so hurt and wanted to give her space and was hoping she would realize she went over board. I then went to Church again on Tuesday(5/1/12) and everyone was asking me how come I missed Church two days ago and even her father the Pastor asked me why I had not attended last service and told me he had been praying for me and talked to me for several minutes and told me to please continue attending their Church that just because I am no with his daughter does not mean I am not part of the family which I thought was very nice of him. When I was about to leave my ex tapped my shoulder and finally talked to me. We talked about school, work and other simple stuff but I did not want to mess it up and bring up the past or question her so I told her that I am sure she has to go and that we can talk later and she agreed. Then I went to Church again yesterday Sunday(5/6/12) and I was in a good mood since I had seen on her Facebook through my moms Facebook her status were she would talk about "how hard it IS to forget me, that the what ifs and our broken dreams, promises and hopes kills her". I had gone 11 days without texting or calling her and I also helped her translate even more than usual since she seemed nervous and when Church ended I was hoping we would reconcile or at least talk like last time on Tuesday but I could tell she was kind of avoiding me by talking to her friend so to not be rude I politely walked up to them and shook their hands and said bye. When I got home I went to check her Facebook through my moms page and she had even deleted my mom which really upset me since my mom was nice to her and I find it disrespectful since I have her whole family on Facebook except her since I was deleted by her prior. I decided to break the silence after 11 days and called her and to my surprise my number was still blocked so I texted "her how are you?" and she never replied
I truly love her and told her that I am improving on my trust issues since I started going to counseling and seeking God more than ever but she said that she will never give me a second chance two weeks ago. What I did was minor and I never even raised my voice at her I only questioned and doubted her through text messages but in person I was always sweet. What can I possibly do to at least recuperate contact with her and slowly get her back in my life. I Love her with all of my heart and can't give up on our dreams and plans that we had. I know she cares since it is impossible to forget that quickly. Is the no contact rule good? Should I remain silent until she calls me? Should I continue attending her Church so that she sees that I truly care and will never leave her side? What if she does not contact me in a few weeks? How can I get on her good side again? I think she cares deep inside but is trying to get over me which I have a feeling she will later on regret and I am trying to recuperate the pure love that we had before I started doubting her. What are the exact steps I will have to do to get in contact with her again and ignite the passion and recuperate her? Should I continue going to her Church service twice a week? I am confused since she has completely blocked me out of her life yet at Church she acts as if nothing is wrong and always accepts when I help her translate to the English speakers that attend her Church. What can I do? :/
I met the girl of my dreams on a Christian dating site on 1/27/12 in person for the first time. We met at a restaurant since I am the first person she ever met in person from any site. We had an Amazing connection and since two hours of talking flew by we decided to go to the movies on the other side of the plaza to prolong our date. On the second date I picked her up and her father and mother interviewed me for over two hours and her father actually liked me and invited me to their Church since he is a Pastor and her whole family is extremely religious and have two Church services a week(Sundays and Tuesdays). He even welcomed me to the family and after that we had our first hug and it was very special since she was happy he accepted me since I am the first guy she has ever brought home. On the third date we went to the movies and I played the piano for her and on the fourth date she met my mother and aunt and they liked her since she is very gifted and she plays the piano, guitar, sings, and translates for her Church. That same day on our fourth date she shared things about her life that she had never shared before and we talked about how we were meant to be and even about marriage since everything was so perfect. On the 5th date we went out for Valentines Day and she paid for the dinner and gave me a huge bear and gifts to my surprise. On the 6th date she became my Gf and a week later I became her first kiss ever and she was beyond nervous and happy.
From that point on we became very attached and we would go out four days a week even though we both work a lot and attend college. Our first month was a dream come true and she even told me that I was more than she could have ever dreamed of and how she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me and we talked about how eager we were to grow old together. She made me promise her that I would never give up on her or leave her and I did since she is my soul mate. Even her mother told us that she could see us marrying down the road and her uncle told me that we were meant to be. People at her Church said we were a couple made in heaven even strangers would randomly comment on how great of a couple we were. After a month of being together I started showing insecurities and fears of her leaving me and I would question and doubt her a lot since she didn't text me on her break and later on she posted on Facebook she had been eating luch with a guy instead. We began having little arguments and she would always reassure me that she would be mines forever and not to worry sick since I would she was mines forever. Then she met my Grandma, aunt, and best friend and we had the most amazing time ever on Easter Day when I brought them to Church. Then that Wednesday(4/11/12)
she told me she needed space since I think she got upset I had complained about her not texting me goodnight and I begged for her not to do that to me but finally agreed on Thursday on giving her time. After two days of silence on Saturday(4/14/12) she broke up with me via a text message and I was crushed since our two month anniversary would have been three days later. That night Sunday morning she called me at 5am and I tried to sound calm which I could tell worried her and we talked for two hours since I had to be at work at 8am.After work later on that night I then saw her after Church and tried to hold her hand while in my car but she resisted but later on gave in and we kissed. Then on Tuesday(4/17/12) after Church I went with her to her house and her mom told me not to worry that I was part of the family regardless if we are broken up or not and afterwards I went out with my soul mate and by the end of the night she held my hand and we hugged for half hour at her door and she told me that she still Loved me but that even though she wants me back something is stopping her but that we can go out as friends. Then on Thursday(4/19/12) I went to see her and she was very cold and told me that we should no longer hang out and for me to be free and forget our promises. I cried and she didn't seem to care. Then on Sunday(4/22/12) after Church I went to her house since her mom invited me and when I left I called my soul mate and she asked to never call her again and that I should move on but that I'm still welcome to her Church. Then on Tuesday(4/24/12) at Church I helped her translate since she seemed nervous and was getting stuck or at loss of words and the service was about reconciling which I thought would touch her heart and make her give me a chance but after Church she ignored me so I left without saying bye which probably upset her and when I came back home I saw that she had deleted every single pic of us together, every comment, and all of our statuses and then she deleted me from Facebook which hurt so much. The next day Wednesday(4/25/12) I called her three times and on the fourth time she blocked my number. Then she called me a few hours later and told me that we are over and I told her that I don't believe that she could possibly be over me after all of the feelings she had shown towards me though out our relationship. I also told her that I would do anything to make things better between us and to forgive me for ever doubting her and she refused to accept. Later that night I texted her asking how she was doing and she never replied. Then I completely stopped texting and calling her I even skipped Church for the first time on Sunday(4/27/12) since I was so hurt and wanted to give her space and was hoping she would realize she went over board. I then went to Church again on Tuesday(5/1/12) and everyone was asking me how come I missed Church two days ago and even her father the Pastor asked me why I had not attended last service and told me he had been praying for me and talked to me for several minutes and told me to please continue attending their Church that just because I am no with his daughter does not mean I am not part of the family which I thought was very nice of him. When I was about to leave my ex tapped my shoulder and finally talked to me. We talked about school, work and other simple stuff but I did not want to mess it up and bring up the past or question her so I told her that I am sure she has to go and that we can talk later and she agreed. Then I went to Church again yesterday Sunday(5/6/12) and I was in a good mood since I had seen on her Facebook through my moms Facebook her status were she would talk about "how hard it IS to forget me, that the what ifs and our broken dreams, promises and hopes kills her". I had gone 11 days without texting or calling her and I also helped her translate even more than usual since she seemed nervous and when Church ended I was hoping we would reconcile or at least talk like last time on Tuesday but I could tell she was kind of avoiding me by talking to her friend so to not be rude I politely walked up to them and shook their hands and said bye. When I got home I went to check her Facebook through my moms page and she had even deleted my mom which really upset me since my mom was nice to her and I find it disrespectful since I have her whole family on Facebook except her since I was deleted by her prior. I decided to break the silence after 11 days and called her and to my surprise my number was still blocked so I texted "her how are you?" and she never replied
I truly love her and told her that I am improving on my trust issues since I started going to counseling and seeking God more than ever but she said that she will never give me a second chance two weeks ago. What I did was minor and I never even raised my voice at her I only questioned and doubted her through text messages but in person I was always sweet. What can I possibly do to at least recuperate contact with her and slowly get her back in my life. I Love her with all of my heart and can't give up on our dreams and plans that we had. I know she cares since it is impossible to forget that quickly. Is the no contact rule good? Should I remain silent until she calls me? Should I continue attending her Church so that she sees that I truly care and will never leave her side? What if she does not contact me in a few weeks? How can I get on her good side again? I think she cares deep inside but is trying to get over me which I have a feeling she will later on regret and I am trying to recuperate the pure love that we had before I started doubting her. What are the exact steps I will have to do to get in contact with her again and ignite the passion and recuperate her? Should I continue going to her Church service twice a week? I am confused since she has completely blocked me out of her life yet at Church she acts as if nothing is wrong and always accepts when I help her translate to the English speakers that attend her Church. What can I do? :/