So my girlfriend and I have had a pretty great relationship for the last few months, but the last week or so she started acting significantly different, like distancing herself or something. So finally out of nowhere yesterday she says she doesn't know about having a serious relationship and being tied down and brings up a break. So assuming this just meant she was trying to dump me without really doing it, I forced myself to agree with the break even though I was extremely unhappy and distraught with the idea, I mean if it makes her happier I'll do it. But about three hours later she texts me saying how she doesn't want me to think she doesn't care about me and asks if she can call to talk about it, so I agree. She says she wants a break because she feels like our relationship is too serious and she doesn't want to feel like she has to stay with me forever, which is pretty lame if you're in a relationship in the first place.

Just a week ago she was perfectly fine, saying how she loves me so much, hopes this lasts, etc. So where did this sudden change come from? So normally a break means you just cut communication for a couple weeks, months, whatever and see how it goes, right? Well her idea of a break is dating but not really dating... if that makes any sense, which it doesn't. She wants to continue dating me without the seriousness we had and spend less time together. I agree that we talk way too much but we only see each other once, sometimes twice a week. So I guess somehow she feels smothered when she's the one that gets pissed if I'm not talking to her 24/7, what the hell?

All right so the main problems we've had are that a couple weeks ago I was hanging out with my friends; my brother, my friend (who's a dude) and my friend (who's a chick) so she got completely pissed because there was another chick even when my brother and my other friend who is also hers were there. This obviously has to do with a trust issue on her part, but she was would not believe me that we were just hanging out even with everyone else there. Then about a week ago she was convinced she was pregnant because she missed a period, and she needed me to talk to her literally every second, if I texted her even a minute or two late she would completely go off on me, even if I couldn't at school. So I pretty much spent that entire week talking to her and doing literally nothing else for fear that she would go off on me again and because I cared about her and was worried, now my grades are suffering for it and she was still pissed at me. I was there for her the entire time spending every second I could to care for her, yet according to her that wasn't enough. She just wants more and more and nothing is ever good enough.

Regardless of that hellish week, she was not pregnant. I don't see how I could possibly be smothering her if she got pissed when I didn't reply within a minute of her every text so that makes no sense. I do pretty much anything she wants or asks of me and I'm very loving and caring toward her so I don't see where I did anything wrong or where her sudden change in not wanting a serious relationship came from.

So we discussed those problems once again and decided we're going to talk to each other a lot less and see each other less and not do anything physical. And we're no longer going to talk about having feelings toward each other or loving each other. So I guess she wants to see if that fixes whatever problems she sees and then try to go back the way we were? I don't understand no matter how much I asked her. And then how am I even in a relationship with her anymore?

Also before this sudden change, we planned on going to her prom together and I would have to get my tux this week to have it in time. So she kept asking if I was still going to go with her, I mean, I don't even understand if I'm in a relationship with her now so it's a hard decision to spend a few hundred dollars on one night with a girl who probably doesn't love me anymore for no apparent reason. But if I don't go with her, she said she'll go with another guy, so I'm pretty much forced into it unless I want to feel even more like hell. I understand it's her prom but how is it justifiable to go with another guy especially after she ed me out for weeks when I hung out with my guy friends and a female friend just because she was there?

I realize at this point that I'm whipped as hell and basically do anything she wants for fear that she'll leave me or go off on me. But I still love this girl and would do anything for her, I just don't understand what I can do at this point besides take all her criticisms, do whatever she wants and roll with the punches until she hopefully eventually decides what she actually wants.

Well, if she's making you feel like ****, why don't you just leave her? I mean, you sound like you deserve better than her. Besides, trust is a major part in a relationship, if someone or both can't trust the other, then it's not worth and will only cause problems in the future. So, I say it's better to leave her and move on, and buy that tuxedo, you never know, you might find that special someone at the prom.

You could have been honest when she first started acting crazy, and left her alone, or agreed to the break and disappeared, and if you weren't so afraid to lose her, you can still leave her alone, and let her go to prom with whomever.

But your are so afraid, so in love, and so giving, that you cannot see that this insecure needy girl is a taker, and she doesn't care how you feel as long as she gets what she wants from you.

Walk away. She really does need to know how far she can push you, because she has no boundaries, or self discipline when it comes to her wants, and you have not taught her any, or at least, what YOURS are.

Whupped is a good word, big scaredy cat that is whupped is a good description. Change it!