View Full Version : Why do I feel like I'm losing my best friend to someone and how do I deal with it?
scshuster
May 3, 2012, 06:13 PM
Okay, so me and my best friend met 2 1/2 to 3 years ago and ever since the beginning of the 6th grade (we're 12 years old) and since the new girl came to WMS in Maine, she been brushing me off her shoulder lately like when I really HAVE to talk to her about something important she just seems to be brushing me off her shoulder and talking to her "other" friends again. Ever since that time I started hurting. She's kind of been ignoring me and it feels like its killing me inside.
She's been ignoring my texts and calls lately, she's almost COMPLETELY stopped talking to me and every time she's done that, it makes me feel alone and like everyone hates me and that it's like I don't even exist, like I should just leave this world. She doesn't understand the freaking pain I've been going through lately. She doesn't know how it hurt breaking up with someone you loved for 3 years and losing a 48 year old grandmother to alcohol. To me, it hurts losing my best friend to someone else. We always use to have sleepovers together.
I wish she knew how I feel. I'm bullied, she's not. Sometimes she gets annoyed with me I guess and just doesn't talk to me for the rest of the day. I practically have to YELL her name to get her attention. When I really need her support she's not there. But when she needs support I'm ALWAYS there for her. Ever since I got depression, I feel like she talks to everyone else, except for me. Sometimes I wish she could see she that she has more than one best friend. Only the friends I have that actually talk to me are there to support me. How can I deal with something like this with depression going on in my life? Please help me.
Homegirl 50
May 4, 2012, 10:09 AM
Okay, so me and my best friend met 2 1/2 to 3 years ago and ever since the beginning of the 6th grade (we're 12 years old) and since the new girl came to WMS in Maine, she been brushing me off her shoulder lately like when I really HAVE to talk to her about something important she just seems to be brushing me off her shoulder and talking to her "other" friends again. Ever since that time I started hurting. She's kinda been ignoring me and it feels like its killing me inside.
She's been ignoring my texts and calls lately, she's almost COMPLETELY stopped talking to me and every time she's done that, it makes me feel alone and like everyone hates me and that it's like I don't even exist, like I should just leave this world. She doesn't understand the freaking pain I've been going through lately. She doesn't know how it hurt breaking up with someone you loved for 3 years and losing a 48 year old grandmother to alcohol. To me, it hurts losing my best friend to someone else. We always use to have sleepovers together.
I wish she knew how I feel. I'm bullied, she's not. Sometimes she gets annoyed with me I guess and just doesn't talk to me for the rest of the day. I practically have to YELL her name to get her attention. When I really need her support she's not there. But when she needs support I'm ALWAYS there for her. Ever since I got depression, I feel like she talks to everyone else, except for me. Sometimes I wish she could see she that she has more than one best friend. Only the friends I have that actually talk to me are there to support me. How can I deal with something like this with depression going on in my life? Please help me.
Appreciate the friends you have that do support you and get over the one that doesn't
advice-alyse
Jul 15, 2012, 12:18 PM
God , I know excatly how you feel . You are NOT alone /: my best friend and my EX best friend are staarting to talk ;/ she went to her first high school party the other day without me! We spend every minute together. And now she's startingg to hang out with the "cool" people. She went to the mall with them yesterday too ! We met in the 2nd gradde, and now were in 8th grade. I don't want to waste all these years. This is going to be the second time this happened. I love her to death , and were excatly alike. And yesterday when I called her she just kept saying call me back later, or barely text me back. I guess if I can go through it once, I can do it again. Thiers this other girl named aliyah. And me , aliyah , and cayla hangs out together all the time. We usually go to caylas house because her parents are never home and we do what we want! But, aliyah been doing her own thing , and I've been home. Were always together and its been weeks. So, I know it hurts like hell.. >> I feel like I'm losing her/: I guess I got nothing to worry about cause I'm moving to a different state next year . I can go or I can stay.. I guess I'm going to go. It sucks cause me & cayla and aliyah is suppost to move to LA and get a apartment together when we get older, after high school ;D but I guess it won't happen cause all of this. But my advice is hang in there.. everything doesn't stay the same forever...
thefourthwheel
Jun 28, 2013, 08:46 PM
Believe me, you're not the only one. I have three best friends, technically two, but I'll tell you the story. My best friend, Melissa and I, have been best friends for about 4 years. A new girl came along and befriended Melissa. About a year later, they do everything together and leave me out. Never invite me to sleepovers, never invite me to anything. When she does invite me to something, it's only her birthday. Next thing I know, when the other girl (McKenna) makes a joke, Melissa falls on the floor laughing. When I make a joke, she does her fake laugh for five seconds and then turns serious when I'm not looking. A few years later, a girl named Samantha comes along. We've known each other for 2 years now. I thought she replaced Melissa... But I jinxed that. Mckenna and Melissa became best friends with Samantha. Samantha became kind of mean to me, and began telling me that I'm going to "embarrass myself" or "you're so weird". Next thing I know, I'm alone again. And when I get a new instagram, they add my name to their best friend list in their bios. A month later, they all get rid of my name. And I'm just here alone. They get to do EVERYTHING together, and I realized they got pedicures and went swimming WITHOUT me. I felt so horrible. One night, I was crying horribly. I was scratching my leg hard and pinching my ears with my fingernails to make myself hurt more than I did before because nobody likes me. About a few months later, Melissa got sick. I decided to take charge. McKenna and Samantha were going out together, so I asked them if I can join. They reluctantly agreed. When Melissa got better again, I invited them to my house and play. We're sort of best friends again, but I will never stop wanting McKenna out of the picture. She stole BOTH my best friends. So that's unacceptable to me. But I tell you, you should take charge. Join the talk with your best friend. Invite her to your house. Go swimming, get pedicures, do things! It's all right to take charge.