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Wise_Shiena
May 3, 2012, 11:14 AM
Hey there people!
I am an adoptee. I'm curious to know who m,y birth parents are, why they sent me away, and I kind of want to meet them. My only question. How?

Fr_Chuck
May 3, 2012, 12:26 PM
Normally you can't and you don't and you won't.

Do you know their names, If not, you post your birth date on one of the many ( or post on many of the many) reunion sites for adopted people. And hope someone may look for you.

But:
If you found them and they cursed you out for finding them and told you that you ruined their life by looking for them.

What if you found perhaps birth mom now remarried and she never told new husband about it, and it causes her to get divorced.

What if after contact they get a restraining order to keep you away.

What if they spit in your fact and tell you they wish you were never borned.

Is that the reunion you are hoping for, or do you want that "happy one they show on TV, not what happens more often.

Do you want to find out you were a product of rape or incest and just the thought of you makes them ill.

Perhaps to find out you were abused and taken away from them

Why must there be anything other than being happy with a great adoptive parents that you were given.

Synnen
May 3, 2012, 08:39 PM
How old are you? When was your adoption?

jasmilla
Sep 16, 2012, 06:28 PM
How old are you? When was your adoption?new born

jasmilla
Sep 16, 2012, 06:30 PM
new born17 and I was a new born

Synnen
Sep 16, 2012, 06:37 PM
We cannot help you search. You are a minor.

You need to have this conversation with your adoptive parents.

JudyKayTee
Sep 17, 2012, 07:18 AM
hey there people!
i am an adoptee. im curious to know who m,y birth parents are, why they sent me away, and i kinda want to meet them. my only question. how?


Yes, you are too young to search (you have to be legal age) and they didn't "send you away."

They couldn't adequately care for you and attempted to give you a better life.

Talk to your parents, ask them for the information.