I found this job anout three weeks ago and it has been going well, I've been building screened in porches and decks and I have done this kind of work before with my dad here an there on weekends here and there at our house well. I been working for about 4 weeks and havint missed a day or anything mon- fri , 7am-3 to 5pm and let me say this my boss is a major , now I'm 22 yrs old and a man I understand me cuss and but this guy flips out over little stuff, that if he calmed down he could see it easily fixable oh BTW anything cut wrong done not his exact way or just how he likes it he freaks an patronizes me, I can tell he wants someone to want to learn his traded and I do I have a fiancé and a 16 month old baby I need ti take care of. Also before this job I did tree work which was back breaking but very manly fun stuff, this is more brains and less back at the same pay, well I missed work yesterday and didn't even call hom because he has me so nerviouas about calling with bad news I'm just not wanting to be belittleed and you know talked down to. What should I do lie and say there was a family energeny or tell him cause he know ny giance has been in rehab the past few weeks and between the baby, keeping money in thr house, taking care of the baby when I'm not working, feeding all our animals and cooking dinner and giving baths, I missed work Wednesday because I was completely stressed, my fiancé is in rehab my parents are getting mad about watch my son all day, and I couldint take it, I cannot loose this job I am the only one working what should I tell my boss the truth or a really good lie

Tell him the truth, exactly as you told it here. One only gets caught in lies.

You sound very stressed out with all that is going on in your family.

The only thing about that is this guy is a spazz if something goes wrong he screams and cusses and throws sttuff and most of the time its his fault but he blames it not me then about 20 min later he clams down realizes it was the equipment or him, then says sorry, the man get me so stressed on the job he asks me to do something and I'm so scared to screw up that I either take a minutes or mess up cause he's says your slow or don't know how to do this or that. For example one day he tells me to make a smal cut 1 an 3/4 " I pull out the tape measure and he screams at me what are you doing jut eyeball it, I did the best I could messed up redid it an got it right, so the next day he says cut something 3/4' so I eyeballs it and its too big and he flips the4 out saying that I should have used my tape measure that why I'm afraid or nervous to call and tell the truth.

If you are going to be a husband and a father, you need to learn responsibility. When you take on a job you are responsible for showing up when scheduled or letting the boss know if you can't make it.

You need to grow up.

If you are going to be a husband and a father, you need to learn responsibility. When you take on a job you are responsible for showing up when scheduled or letting the boss know if you can't make it.

You need to grow up.

Yes I agree completely, but I didn't not choose to e either I was young and dumb and doing drugs when my girlfriend of three year got pregnant so I necame a daddy but the problem is that you know I ve been clean for almost my entire sons life, then after I finally get the job I've needed for along time his mother decides to go get help in rehab leaving me with all the bills, and responsibility to myself it work, come home be daddy feed my chickens and dogs cooks dinner gives baths an then get readsy to go again its a lot on me I'm 21 about tto be 22 in July and I wasint a full time dad till January that when her an my son moved in, I'm just over worked an under appreciated I feel it it at least I try so hard to get it tight and now one throws me a bone.

All the more reason you need to grow up and act like a responsible adult. Stop making excuses and man up

All the more reason you need to grow up and act like a responsible adult. Stop making excuses and man up

I agree completely but do you not agree that he should learn some self control, because I've had customer come pull me to the side and ask if I was OK with the way he screamed and talked to me. So I will call and tell him but he needs to work on saving face in front of customers starting with talking to me like a dog and taking time to look at a mistake made on the job bacause by freaking out over a small malfunction makes him look irresponsible

Yes, bosses need to learn responsibility too. They should treat employees with respect. But the fact is that we have a choice, we put up with a boss or get a different job. Using a boss's immaturity is not an excuse for your own immaturity.

First you are assuming you will have a job tomorrow, I would not be too sure to be honest, there are 100's of guys ready to earn money at entry level work

So he yells, you are going to find a lot of bosses yell all the time, esp in construction jobs and esp at costly mistakes.

Lets look at "cutting" something wrong, you are doing a deck and cut a 2 X 12 wrong, guess what you may have cost 20 to 30 dollars in loss material. Do that two or three times a day, and you cost him 100 dollars profit a day in your mistakes, I may yell a little also, if you were told to measure, shown how to measure ( esp if you claim to have done this type of work before)

If this is today, you had better call him now, tell him you are sorry and that you will be there tomorrow, if not, he may have someone else there tomorrow.

In one sentence you talk about stress and needing money, but then you lay out of work, sorry you can't have it both ways.

1. lie will not work, and will only get you in deeper,
2. sooner you call and talk to him the better