Hi guys, so I’ve met this girl and she is just a friend. For some reason I happen to be very mean to her for no apparent reason, some justified and some aren’t. Everything she does seem to be somewhat annoying, everything she says gets me mad in some way. I realized that this was very unhealthy for me, so I tried getting rid of her from my life. I never initiate contact with her and she has always been around. I tried blocking her on messenger, stop trying to see her around and however for some reason I always find myself back to talking to her. We share similar career interests and hobbies, yet I don’t find it enjoyable when talking to that stuff with her. Furthermore I am also 5 years older than this girl.

Last night, I had some dream that I was involved with a younger girl but this girl in my dreams was not this girl that I am speaking of. I am not sure if this is my subconscious saying that this is the girl in my dreams or not. Nevertheless, today I found myself considering why I am so mean to this girl and the possibility of that I might like her came up in my mind. Initially I thought to myself that this is definitely not the case but I also find it hard to think of another reason why I am so mean to her. Anyway to the point, my question is, does this mean I like this girl and want to be with her? Or am I just over thinking things again? What are your thoughts?

I also want to point out, I am not a mean person by nature, but this situation just somehow brings out the worse of me.

Make a decision, only you know if you like her or not, regardless you need to treat her with respect, if not then you might as well just back off.

Maybe you don't like her but at a loss as how to deal with her as it seems you see her often enough in the course of your day. Stop being so mean and just go about your business. When you get into the real world, there will be co workers you don't like, so now is an excellent time to know how without them bringing out your worst. Always try and put your best foot forward in all situations.

At least try to. You don't have to like any one, but you should try and tolerate them, as politely as possible. Isn't that how YOU would want to be treated by some one that doesn't like you?