Hi,

I am new here and I really will appreciate if you try to help me.

I have this best guy friend since kinder garden. We are best friend until today (we are both 24 now). One month ago he had a birthday. We were all having fun and we were all drunk. The same night he came to me and said "Listen to me very carefully now - you are my ideal of a woman and I never ever met anyone like you, now I want to enjoy my freedom for 2-3 more years, but after that I will fight for you and I don't care if you have a boyfriend then or not - I will fight for you" (when he says something he really means it) He also said "You know how hard it is for me to share my feeling in general and you know that I don't usually share things like that"I reacted cool, making a joke, because I didn't know how to react - I was very surprised.

On the other day I thought about it a lot. At first I was disappointed, because I really thought that we will be friends until forever, but then I realized that it is in our nature to be attracted to the opposite sex, and this is very normal. And I was sure I don't feel the same. But still after he revealed how he feels, I started to think and to look at him like a man, not a friend.

Two days ago a girl from our hood was crushing on him really intensively and I got freaking jealous!! And another fact – this girl and I – we don't get along much, we keep the good tone and conversation in general, but still there is an issue between two of us. I could barely sleep after I saw her crushing on my friend and I wanted to ask him how he feels about her. So yesterday I did and he said that he noticed that she is doing this, but he has to be very, very, very drunk to sleep with her or something else..

So now what bothers me is why I got jealous – is it because after he revealed himself, I started to think of him as a man and loving him as a friend became loving him as a man and partner – you know that the line between friendship and love is very thin, OR I got jealous because a girl I almost hate is fckn crushing on him in front of me??

I am confused, because I really think I should do something – 1st talk to him and tell him how I feel and 2nd kiss him – because we never ever even kissed (I mean a real kiss), but I am afraid to do it, because this will mess everything up, IF in the end appears that I want all this and I was jealous, JUST because I don't like this girl.

This weekend we are going to a festival with a bunch of friends and this girl will also be there, so I have to know what I am feeling before that…if he is still only a friend for me, I should not stand in their way (even if I want it very strongly), if not I have to do something, because in the end I am going to beat the hell out of her hahahaha

I thank you a lot (in advance) and I really hope you will help me. I know that the answer is in my heart, but sometimes it is hard to see what's there inside you and others can see you from behind and tell you what you are feeling.

So.. thanks again!

Hana

Right now you do nothing about these newly discovered feelings, or the girl you hate. I think it wiser to take what he has declared while tipsy with a grain of salt and not get unduly carried away by this.

I mean what he has said is a long way off, and you have forgotten the other part of his tipsy declaration,


you are my ideal of a woman and I never ever met anyone like you, now I want to enjoy my freedom for 2-3 more years, but after that I will fight for you

How can you go with the good parts that have tickled your fancy, and skip his desire to enjoy his freedom for a few more YEARS! So do not over react to something that's clearly not happening TODAY. Matter of fact, dismiss his declaration altogether, and just keep it friends.

You are a smart enough cookie to know that though, so no problem with holding off on other girls flirting with him, or kicking your enemies A$$ for flirting or anything else they do, with your future husband, or whatever.