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LovinMeKeria
May 1, 2012, 06:16 PM
I'm 11 dating a 15 year old we have been dating for about 7 months now and he is very sweet and I really like him and we don't have any problems do you think its bad?

joypulv
May 2, 2012, 12:56 AM
What do you mean by dating? A boy and a girl together usually leads to sex, no matter how sweet he is. There's a lot more to sex than just having it. An 11 year old just can't fathom all the problems, and a 15 year old isn't thinking much about all that can go wrong either.

ScottGem
May 2, 2012, 03:00 AM
What about your parents? Do they know and approve? An 11 yr old is really too young to even be dating, let alone a 15 yr old. Don't try to grow up too fast.

LoveTheMusic
May 2, 2012, 09:15 AM
I do not think it's wrong.
I am a strong believer that love knows no bounds. If you really like him, maybe even lovve himm, then it is prfectly fine. My parents have a seven year age gap and have a perfectly fine relationship.
People wouldn't think it was wrong if a 25 year old was dating a 29 year old, its just because you found someone for you a bit earlier in life. Age is just a number. However that does NOT mean that you are ready to have sex. Do not have sex at such a young ge as it can only be harmful at 11 and you are definitely nt ready for any of the outcomes or the dangers. So if he asks you if you want to have sex, SAY NO. If he's a decent human being then he will ccept your descicion.
I really do hope everything goes well with you. :)

Fr_Chuck
May 2, 2012, 10:15 AM
Yes it is far to you to date, you are not old enough mature enough to handle a dating situation.
And I believe if they are allowing this your parents are bad parents and are not doing what is best for you.

LoveThe Music, sounds like you are about 12 and don't understand life either. Sorry at 20 or 30 10 years age difference does not matter as much, at 11 yes age matters a lot

ScottGem
May 2, 2012, 10:44 AM
I do not think it's wrong.
I am a strong believer that love knows no bounds....People wouldn't think it was wrong if a 25 year old was dating a 29 year old,
Age is just a number.

And how old are you?

Yes there is nothing wrong with a 25 yr old dating a 29 yr old. Nor is there anything wrong with a 7 yr gap. WHEN BOTH ARE ADULTS! That is because once we have reached adulthood, we have a solid basis in maturity and experience that we can use to handle romantic relationships. But an 11 yr old is a child, a 15 yr old has developed far beyond an 11 yr old. So the gap is MUCH wider at those ages.

People who say age is just a number are usually trying to justify a relationship they know deep down is wrong.

I do agree with you that love knows no bounds. But the thing you fail to understand is that true feelings of love can only come with maturity and experience. Most 11 yr olds are more involved with the idea of being in love rather than real love.

And you give good advice about not engaging in sex, but what you fail to understand is that someone so young hasn't the maturity to process their feelings. There are too often more focused on pleasing the object of that infatuation then in the consequences of their actions. So young people are more inclined to fall prey to being taken advantage of.

Telling an 11 yr old it is OK to date a 15 yr old is irresponsible. Please cease.

LoveTheMusic
May 2, 2012, 11:27 AM
Look guys, I know that not everyone agrees with my views and that's OK. Just please do not insult my intelligence.
This is a site in which people ask for opinions, and all I did was give my own opinion.
Anyway, how can you believe that as soon as someone becomes an adult they immediately know what love is and what they want in love. When does someone truly become mature? There are many people in their adulthood who are not as mature as some teenagers these days. So just think, can you really say that the second someone stops being 17 and turns 18 they are immediately a different person? Wake up.
And as for how old I am? I don't see how it matters, but I'm 19. I'm an adult. If the spelling mistakes in my first comment mislead you, it's because, at that point, I was typing on an old and semi-broken keyboard. Don't judge before you know someone.

ScottGem
May 2, 2012, 12:01 PM
Look guys, I know that not everyone agrees with my views and thats ok. Just please do not insult my intelligence.
This is a site in which people ask for opinions, and all I did was give my own opinion.
Anyway, how can you believe that as soon as someone becomes an adult they immediately know what love is and what they want in love. When does someone truly become mature? There are many people in their adulthood who are not as mature as some teenagers these days. So just think, can you really say that the second someone stops being 17 and turns 18 they are immediately a different person? Wake up.
And as for how old I am? I don't see how it matters, but I'm 19. I'm an adult. If the spelling mistakes in my first comment mislead you, it's because, at that point, I was typing on an old and semi-broken keyboard. Don't judge before you know someone.

We're not insulting your intelligence, only the validity of your opinions. And, while everyone is entitled to an opinion, opinions can have validity. Yours, at least in this area, don't.

For example, you argue the points I made, not be producing anything to refute those points, but to try and blur them. No I'm not saying that as soon as someone turns 18 they are a different person. But the fact remains that someone who has reached adulthood is much more likely to be prepared to deal with romantic entanglements than someone who is 11. Yes there may even be some 11 yr olds who are more mature than some 18 yr olds. But the odds are very much against that. And since we don't know the 11 yr old, we need to go with the odds. That's why it is irresponsible to encourage someone to engage in such a relationship.

And yes your age does matter, because your opinions are formulated by your age and experience. Come back in 10 or 15 years or when you have an 11 yr old daughter and tell us how much age doesn't matter.

talaniman
May 2, 2012, 02:26 PM
The premise behind the law setting an age for adulthood is that that's when you officially can be held responsible for whatever your actions are and subject to punishment, NOT your parents.

That's why kids come here with these questions because they already know what the parents will say... HELL NO!!

monday56
May 16, 2012, 05:36 PM
Ok well guys I'm 11 years old 2 and I dated someone for 2 years! Possibly 3 but I follow the rules of my guardians! He even asked if I could french kiss him then have you know what with him then I broke up with him and moved away. And I am about to become 12 years old and well everything is going good. Believe me just ask your parents what they think about you dating a 15 year old if they say no break up for a while. Wait until you are old enough to date him again.(age 13 or 14.) Once you break up with him tell him why he will understand why.

Its not 12:46 where I am! Its 7:39 OK!! I live in Oklahoma!

ScottGem
May 16, 2012, 05:56 PM
You are telling us your parents let you date when you were 9? I suspect we aren't talking about real dating. But, at least you had the knowledge and maturity to know where to draw the line (at french kissing)

Alty
May 16, 2012, 06:26 PM
Ok well guys im 11 years old 2 and i dated someone for 2 years! possibly 3 but I follow the rules of my guardians! He even asked if I could french kiss him then have you know what with him then i broke up with him and moved away. And I am about to become 12 years old and well everything is going good. Believe me just ask your parents what they think about you dating a 15 year old if they say no break up for a while. Wait until you are old enough to date him again.(age 13 or 14.) Once you break up with him tell him why he will understand why.

its not 12:46 where I am! its 7:39 OK!!!!! I live in Oklahoma!

You started dating when you were 9 years old? I seriously doubt that. Also, you expect us to believe that your parents allowed this? I'm not buying it.

If you're going to lie, at least make it believable. Not one person is going to believe that you started dating at the age of 9 and dated the guy for 3 years.

C0bra_M3nace
May 18, 2012, 12:08 PM
An 11 year old should not be dating are getting into relationships. PERIOD.

My reason? Simple, enjoy your childhood and leave the grown up stuff when you're a grown up. Trust me, go outside, play games with your friend, focus on your school work, because sweetheart, when you blink tomorrow you'll be 18, then once more you'll be 30 and wish you were 11 again.

Take that a run with it kid.

WisperWill70
May 18, 2012, 12:49 PM
im 11 dating a 15 year old we have been dating for about 7 months now and he is very sweet and i really like him and we dnt have any problems do u think its bad?

Why is an 11 year old :"Dating" at all? This rush to experience sex and love while still a child is so dangerous. And yes -- a 4 year age gap is no problem when you're mature and an adult, but at that stage you're both still kids. (a 15 year old boy is becoming sexually mature while an 11 year old girl is still a child and just starting puberty - Very scary. And the sad thing is these kids move into things without emotional or mental maturity to handle it and don't see what the problem is)

Be careful, don't get pressured into sex or doing things even if all your friends are doing it. At your age --- hang out with lots of people, don't zone in on one person and be safe.

ommi_kosher
May 18, 2012, 03:52 PM
Listen I'm 14 and I have seen lots of cute older guys but I have NEVER hooked up with one of them if I have a boyfriend my mother knows about it even if she doesn't want to your growing up way to fast you need to tell a family members cause if your relation ship gets out of hand and it turns out he wants more than you think... Then what? Maybe you should slow down I hope your not doing anything with him and if you are at least make sure your protected that's not good at all I would never go out with a 17 year old maybe when I'm 16 maybe not until I'm 17 don't think ahead just stay where you are for know be a kid while you can cause when you grow up you'll wish you were back in your glory days I know you don't know me AT ALL but do me a favor and just slow down cause your moving way to fast ;)

monday56
May 27, 2012, 03:51 PM
Guys well I loved him and I was going to draw the line p.s. I told then sooner on I hate him now and will never hook up with someone else he was my age and well I have a new cruch now. He's cute nice and well he's not with another person I'm about to be 12 too and in 7th grade but with this thing that love knows no bound I know bounds and how to break them but sometimes I don't even tell what's going on in my life I had my period a few days ago and haven't told my parents yet :O


You started dating when you were 9 years old? I seriously doubt that. Also, you expect us to believe that your parents allowed this? I'm not buying it.

If you're going to lie, at least make it believable. Not one person is going to believe that you started dating at the age of 9 and dated the guy for 3 years.

p.s. I AM NOT LIENG I have never lied in my life and my parents hear or see me lieng I will be dead in 10 second or grounded for a year or LIFE and well I just can't help saying this but I'm suicidal and I do have adhd and bi polar and well I'd lash out at him and mainly I did that when he asked me to french kiss hin that's when I slapped him across the face and broke up


You are telling us your parents let you date when you were 9? I suspect we aren't talking about real dating. But, at least you had the knowledge and maturity to know where to draw the line (at french kissing)

Well this was helpful to me but someone doesn't even believe me just listen to my advice and please don't post hatefull comments other people!

Wondergirl
May 27, 2012, 03:57 PM
p.s. I AM NOT LIENG i have never lied in my life and my parents hear or see me lieng i will be dead in 10 second or grounded for a year or LIFE and well i just can't help saying this but im suicidal and i do have adhd and bi polar and well i'd lash out at him and mainly i did that when he asked me to french kiss hin thats when i slapped him across the face and broke up
I hope you become a bestselling author. You have a terrific imagination!

ScottGem
May 27, 2012, 03:59 PM
Ok, so you aren't lying, but I doubt if you understand what dating really means. And it may not be lying, but if you aren't telling your parents things (like that you got your first period or that you are dating) then you are not being honest with them.

And if you do have your period what are you doing for sanitary protection? Is it any wonder your posts are not believable?

Alty
May 27, 2012, 04:08 PM
p.s. I AM NOT LIENG i have never lied in my life and my parents hear or see me lieng i will be dead in 10 second or grounded for a year or LIFE and well i just can't help saying this but im suicidal and i do have adhd and bi polar and well i'd lash out at him and mainly i did that when he asked me to french kiss hin thats when i slapped him across the face and broke up

LMAO! You just lied! So much for that huh?

Read your post, see if you can find the lie. Should I show you?

"my parents hear or see my lieng I will be dead in 10 second or grounded for a year, or life". Which is it? It can't be all 3. If they kill you within 10 seconds, it's really not necessary to ground you for a year, or life. Also, I highly doubt your parents would kill you, so that's a lie. Do you even know what lying is?

Sorry kiddo, not buying any of it. Nice try though, but I'm a mom. I can smell a lie like a fart in a car.

talaniman
May 27, 2012, 04:20 PM
Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to ScottGem again.

You have to see from what you have written that 11 year old love can change fast for many reasons and you are changing too. As you learn more, you will change, such as what you think love, and dating is, and how your mom should be told immediately about your first period.

Most of us are older than your parents, and we KNOW what it was like at 11, and learning and growing, so don't be so defensive. We tell our grand kids the same thing we tell you.

tessa0987
May 27, 2012, 04:24 PM
Okay so all you people saying this is wrong and what not haven't been in love then. Love is love. Who gives a of age .

To the girl who asked this: its not wrong don't let people bring you down. Love is love no one can stop it . Just remmeber ALL guys have a penis and there always going to think about sex but as long as you don't give in or him persure you , I think its fine. If he ever brings it up just tell him that that would hurt the relationship that you two have . Please don't let people bring you down don't let them say you can't love and you don't know twhat love is , every girl has love either if its to a kitty cat (: . Or a guy but they most think and be careful as long as your mature I think its fine . I'm kind of in the same situation . But I'm older then you. Please make sure your parnets don't find out.. it sucks.. bad . I hope you two last forever <<3 hope I helped (: bye

Alty
May 27, 2012, 04:29 PM
Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.

Darnit! I agree with Tal. :)

I have children close in age to you. I have a 9 year old daughter that is not allowed to date, nor is she interested, like all 9 years olds I know, she thinks boys are icky, which is why I'm not buying your story of dating at 9 years of age for 3 years. I also have a 13 year old. He is allowed to go on group dates, but not allowed to date one on one, because he's too young. He has yet to go on a group date. He's been asked, but he's not ready, according to him.

I love my kids, they're good kids, and I can tell you right now, they lie to me. In fact, I'm sure they lie to me every single day. "yes I did my homework" (no they didn't!), "I just took the dog out" (3 hours ago), "I did not yell at my brother/sister" (I heard you), "I did clean up my dishes" (they're on the table), "I always empty the dishwasher" (I did it for the last week), "I'll clean my room tomorrow" (that's what you've been saying for the last month).

As soon as someone says "I never lie", that's a lie. There's not one person on the face of this Earth that doesn't lie. It may not be a huge lie, but we all lie. You're lying to your parents right now. You didn't tell them that you got your first period. That's a lie.

ScottGem
May 27, 2012, 04:31 PM
: okay so all you people saying this is wrong and what not havent been in love then. love is love. who gives a of age .

... but im older then you. please make sure your parnets dont find out.. it sucks .. bad . i hope you two last forever <<3 hope i helped (: bye

No love is NOT love. Loving a pet is different from loving a person. And there are different levels of love. Preteens crushes are unlikely to be true and lasting love.

And yes age matters, because it does take maturity and experience to know how to deal with the emotions of romantic relationships.

Finally, do not even think of advising a child to sneak around behind their parents. Parents are there to help and protect. If you have to sneak around behind your parent's backs then there is something very wrong. If you are really in love, you should be able to be proud of it, not hide it.

Sorry tessa but your advice here is very bad.

louise1928
May 28, 2012, 01:18 PM
This is coming from a 14 year old girl who knows ho the mind of a 15 year old boy works, they change there minds about who they want to be with in 5 minutes. If your really sure this boy loves you then there's nothing wrong with that. When I was eleven I remember what it as like when you liked someone and if your dating a 15 year old and your heart skips a beat when you see him make sure he feels the same way before you get your heart broken. One of my best friends did aand I never want to see somehing like that happen to anyone else!

Alty
May 28, 2012, 03:32 PM
This is coming from a 14 year old girl who knows ho the mind of a 15 year old boy works, they change there minds about who they want to be with in 5 minutes. If your really sure this boy loves you then there's nothing wrong with that. When I was eleven i remember what it as like when you liked someone and if your dating a 15 year old and your heart skips a beat when you see him make sure he feels the same way before you get your heart broken. One of my best friends did aand i never want to see somehing like that happen to anyone else!

The thing that all of the young people answering this question are forgetting, is that this isn't up to the 11 year old child.

At 11 she needs her parents permission to date anyone. If she doesn't have her parents permission, and she dates this guy, that 15 year old boy she loves so much is breaking the law.

The boy won't just get a slap on the wrist and a warning. If he so much as kisses her, or has any sexual contact with her (and sexual contact isn't just sex), he could go to jail, and be labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life. This could ruin his life!

So, for all the kids saying that it's okay. It really isn't! I know that at 14 you think you've learned so much about life, but believe me, you have no clue. I'm not being mean, it just is what it is. At 14 you don't have the life experience, or the maturity, to know what's good for yourself, much less giving illegal advice to an 11 year old child.

Tassy1998
May 30, 2012, 12:39 AM
Look sweetie, I'm a 15 yr old girl and fighting off guys my age, they only have one thing on there mind and you are way to young to worry about it, ditch that loser and date someone your age

Alty
May 30, 2012, 10:43 AM
Look sweetie, I'm a 15 yr old girl and fighting off guys my age, they only have one thing on there mind and you are way to young to worry about it, ditch that loser and date someone your age

I have to point this out, yet again. The poster is 11 years old. It's not her choice whether to date or not, even if it is someone her age. At 11 she needs her parents permission to date anyone.