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smitty92
May 1, 2012, 01:01 PM
Hey. I'm a female in uni. I've always been really weird about sex because I'm terrified of getting pregnant at this point in my life, and usually the fact that I won't have sex with guys is a major contributing factor in our not staying together. My most recent boyfriend and I had just broken up, and my gay best friend started staying over in my dorm room. He's said before that he'd like to experiment with girls because he never has, etc. etc. Last night, he came back to the room. We were both drinking a little but we weren't drunk. We made out and gave each other oral. It felt really good and I felt like I could relax because he's not going to want real sex from me because he's not into girls--it was just a way to mutually release hormonal tension. But now, morning after, I'm kind of freaking out, like, "Am I a horrible person for using him like that?" He was using me, too. We both knew that's what we were doing, we're consenting adults, and he didn't seem weird about it this morning at all. I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else had ever been in a similar situation and how they feel about it.

CravenMorhead
May 1, 2012, 02:32 PM
It was mutual consensual, all be it drunk, sex. It happens. I don't think you were using him. If anything he was using you. It seems though it was mutual and beneficial and really not to be over thought about.

Might want to get the ground rules down before you go any further. While rare you might also want to get tested for any STIs.

Be smart about it.

Fr_Chuck
May 1, 2012, 02:49 PM
You both agreed, it is not using, but he is not gay, he may be bi, if he was gay, he would not have any interest in oral with you at all.

OneDude79
May 1, 2012, 02:52 PM
I agree, since I am straight and could not imagine another dude giving me head.

CoruptedAngel
May 2, 2012, 12:59 AM
No you nor him did anything wrong. You both consented and enjoyed. Practice safe sex :)