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HEATHERTIRED
Apr 30, 2012, 06:01 AM
Really wish it was just over! I hate living, I am so depreesed
My husband would be better off without me.
Everyone is on my..
Parents came over last night just to cuss and talk to me
As he (dad) walked out he said "i really dont want to get the call that ur dead"
Ha... Guess its not to damn hard to read me

I see all these people that are sick and fight to live and then there is me that would trade w/them in a min.
I have nothing to live for... just want it to end!

joypulv
May 2, 2012, 03:45 AM
Yet here you are online... saying you wish it were over, but not asking a question...
So is your question, what should I do?
You should see a therapist who is paid to hear this.

The trouble with telling loved ones over and over that you want to be dead is that they get frustrated, helpless, hurt, and finally angry.
You've hurt them by implying you don't care enough about them to stick around.
You've frustrated them because they don't know what to do, how to respond.
They are afraid and helpless. They can't throw you in a hospital unless you act on your wishes.
Eventually, they get angry about all of the above. They even start to think how one sided your relationship is. What about their feelings? What about troubles they have?

If you are trying to drive everyone away to prove that you are no good or something, you are doing a good job. So go get therapy.

Canterra
May 13, 2012, 03:20 PM
Your dad clearly cares about you if he can read what your feeling, and honestly wants you to get better. But suicide honestly just hurts the people around you, and I know I've been there. Friends of mine have killed themselves because they though no one cared, but everyone did. Get help talk to someone, call a suicide hotline, start over. Do waterer you can before its too late.

Fr_Chuck
May 13, 2012, 04:11 PM
So what do you need to do, to have something to live for. Divorce husband and get a new boyfriend, Move to the other side of the nation and become a belly dancer ?

Really what do you want

Lifeiscrap
May 22, 2012, 11:51 AM
There's just no point. No matter what you do it will just suck again tomorrow. Therapist? What for? They can't change the world you live in. Pills? Great now life sucks and you have no energy. Everyone is just waiting for you to break. They know you are lower than them. If you were a piece of **** you could be happy like everyone else.

Yeah. You aren't alone. Not sure what happens next in your life or mine. I soooo hope it gets better.

olaide
May 22, 2012, 12:27 PM
No buddy, you don't need to think you want it over is only GOD that give life and HE should take it when the time come. Be patient, relax your mind and let your thinking ability take you out of this by:
1. Change your environment
2. Meet new people
3. Take new course that is of most interest to you
4. Take on new project e.g one goal project
Be prayerful and believe that GOD will take control.

Lifeiscrap
May 22, 2012, 05:08 PM
Really God will fix it?

God abandoned this world and us long, long ago. Do I believe in God and his son Jesus Christ? Absolutely. Doesn't change the fact that God is no longer troubled by this world. He HAS moved.

The only true answer is survive. Survive for those few good times you will enjoy. There won't be near enough so cherish everyone. Hopefully we will get enough good times to justify living.

Wondergirl
May 22, 2012, 05:15 PM
Really God will fix it?
God has given us brains and strong arms and legs and the desire for community. He wants US to fix it.

God abandoned this world and us long, long ago. Do I believe in God and his son Jesus Christ? Absolutely. Doesn't change the fact that God is no longer troubled by this world. He HAS moved.
Not true. I just had a chat with him. He said to say hi to Lifeiscrap and to become part of his community. Soooooooooo, here I am. How can I help?

gift111
May 23, 2012, 12:26 AM
Is there anything that is important to you that is still remaining. Take a moment and put yourself in the shoes of the ones who love you and they in yours how would you feel. Probably hurt, frustrated, rage... that is how they feel. They want you to get better I believe they want you to find something worth living for . They cannot find that thing for you. They can only facilitate and for them to be able to do so you have to be willing to be helped and to show you are willing you have to accept you need the help and seek for it. This is just another milestone on your way in life, yoou are lucky you have support from people who love you. How you handle yourself matters hope you walk through and let your loved ones help where possible. The milestone will be lighter and things will be better. All you need for statrers is the will to be bettet. Hope you will be. You need to be OK

santachina
May 31, 2012, 08:21 PM
Hey hey don't die! You need to live, because olaide is right only God has the right to take and give lives. If you die think of all the things you will miss! There's a whole wold to see and you should be out there, not moping wishing you could die! :| I'm going to see Chicago this summer so you need to live. :)

chiradeep
Jul 18, 2012, 07:31 AM
Hello there! I can understand the pain your going through. But death is not a solution because death will open up another life. Are you ready for that life? If not then you need to work out for this life and also for the life to come after death.

Lets talk about the present life. The best way to get rid of any problem is to just avoid the problem. To avoid the problem you need to be busy with something which will really keep a hold on you. So tell me what's the best thing that always gives you pleasure? What are you hobbies? Do you like to serve the old people in an old age home? Do you like taking care of orphan kids in an orphanage? Do it... That would divert your mind from all the problems of life. Do something productive and don't sit idle.

JudyKayTee
Jul 19, 2012, 05:29 AM
Hello there! I can understand the pain your going through. But death is not a solution because death will open up another life. Are you ready for that life? If not then you need to work out for this life and also for the life to come after death.


Not everyone here has your beliefs - whatever they are - about an afterlife. Please don't use religious references on other than the religious boards. It can be offensive.

chiradeep
Jul 19, 2012, 06:04 AM
Not everyone here has your beliefs - whatever they are - about an afterlife. Please don't use religious references on other than the religious boards. It can be offensive.

Let the OP oppose or talk back to me... I would appreciate that.

JudyKayTee
Jul 19, 2012, 06:19 AM
Let the OP oppose or talk back to me... I would appreciate that.


She hasn't been "here" since April 30th. I find your comments about religion to be out of place here.

This person has problems here and now without worrying about the "after life."

There are religious threads where your views are welcome and encouraged.

chiradeep
Jul 19, 2012, 06:28 AM
She hasn't been "here" since April 30th. I find your comments about religion to be out of place here.


Being a counselor I know what may stir in the mind's of a person who is losing the importance & value of his/her own life.

But I liked your comment as a good reminder of the section, that's why I made it 'helpful.'

J_9
Jul 19, 2012, 06:41 AM
The best way to get rid of any problem is to just avoid the problem. Really? Avoidance doesn't solve anything. For example, if you were in financial ruin do you think avoiding it would make you rich? This is very bad advice.

J_9
Jul 19, 2012, 06:43 AM
Being a counselor You are a counselor and you teach people to AVOID their problems?

JudyKayTee
Jul 19, 2012, 07:01 AM
Being a counselor I know what may stir in the mind's of a person who is losing the importance & value of his/her own life.

But I liked your comment as a good reminder of the section, that's why I made it 'helpful.'


A counsellor who recommends/practices avoidance?

I have no idea what "I know what may stir in the mind's of a person who is losing the importance & value of his/her own life."

chiradeep
Jul 19, 2012, 07:12 AM
You are a counselor and you teach people to AVOID their problems?

Thanks for pointing out. I didn't mean avoiding the problem but any bad thoughts. I corrected it.

I don't teach avoidance, please don't misinterprete my statements.

J_9
Jul 19, 2012, 07:19 AM
I don't teach avoidance, please don't misinterprete my statements.

We aren't misinterpreting your statements, we are going by exactly what you said. You told the OP to avoid the problem.

JudyKayTee
Jul 19, 2012, 07:20 AM
Thanks for pointing out. I didn't mean avoiding the problem but any bad thoughts. I corrected it.

I don't teach avoidance, please don't misinterprete my statements.


What type of counselling do you do? Religious?

J_9
Jul 19, 2012, 07:24 AM
But death is not a solution because death will open up another life. Are you ready for that life? If not then you need to work out for this life and also for the life to come after death.


Chiradeep, you need to understand that this is a global website. Not everyone here believes in your beliefs and it is not recommended that we place our beliefs on others. Many don't believe in the afterlife, as you might.

If you are a counselor, as you say you are, you will keep your advice culturally diverse. You should not impose your beliefs on anyone as we all have different beliefs.

NDE PTSD
Jul 21, 2012, 08:18 PM
This is for the people who read this post as this women has not replied for months. I died and suffocated to death in my own blood. I clinically died three times during this trauma from a stab wound to my heart. Not many people come back from an event like that but I did. The death process is a very brutal horrific experience. To say I just want it to end is just the beginning. Our bodies want to live and it fights to survive. Suicide is death and a selfish act. To ask you not to kill yourself because of the pain you cause others is moot. I ask you not to kill yourself because of the pain you cause your body and yourself trying to breath and survive. Death is a messed up thing when your trying to survive. You just don't go to sleep and its over, you die and you go through the horrific death process and pain of dying.

JessicaW8
Aug 2, 2012, 07:36 PM
Please get help. You are crying out for help and people will help you. I know about this situation I have been there before. Once you get help you will love life and look down on these thoughts. I know sounds it sounds like a lie but it really will happen once you recover. Please ask for help.