Hey Guys,
I was in a relation with a girl for last 2 and half years. I was damn serious about her even our family also was involve but last week I found that she is cheating on me for last one and half year.

I don't know why but I can't hate her even I have caught her with other boy and I still love her. I cried 3 days continuous for her. My mom helped me a lot otherwise I will be dead.. . Really.

I really loved her even she accepted many time that she know how much I love her but I'm still have many question to be answered.
Why did she cheated? What has she found in that boy? Is it money (I have too) or is it physical need?

I didn't do anything wrong (s.x) with her even she was alone with me in a whole night... except oral. COULD IT BE A REASON?

She always said to me that I must got to gym but I never responded on it. Is it a reason? I have no more option why she can cheat me for.

I want to forget her but I really can't. I missed her so much.

Why have you not asked her these questions, my friend, as she is the one to have the answers. How old are you both? Is this your first girl friend? How do you know she cheated?

I have seen her with a boy with the help of our mutual friend and she also has been admit it... she said that the other boy has been married with her... I know very well that she is lying because her friends (mine too) told me that she was in three relation at a time...
But they all told me after the break up

I am 27 and she is 25
I really want to talk to her but she doesn't
I still love her even I cried last night too
I never smoked before but now its my need
Not for her but I have started GYM too

I do not think that you let this great disappointment disrupt your life like this. No doubt you have much misery and pain over this, any one would, but substances isn't the answer, but the gym is a great way to vent those bad feelings as long as you do this for you, and not to get her back.

You have much to take a closer look at her character about my friend, and that's best done with a calm mind and a cooler head. In time the whole truth will come to light, and you will be better for it.

She has changed her contact number but I manages somehow to get her new number (I really don't know why? But I didn't call her yet)

Why am I waiting for her call?
Why do I want to see her?
Even she is happy with her life

While I can understand the hurt feelings, your actions now are out of bounds. We all would love to hold on to what we had, Sometimes that's just not going to happen, and we are forced to accept reality, and regroup. Maybe it will take some time to get over this, but get over it is what must be done, so lose the number and leave her alone before you do something foolish and have humiliating regrets.

You will be wanting her to call, and wanting to see her for some time but deep down inside yourself you know she won't so stop waiting and falsely hope that happen. Get on with your life guy, and leave hers alone. It may take time, but it will happen.

Until it does, do not act foolishly, or bring shame to yourself.

When people decide to cheat on their partners, it usually happens without any warning, that is why there are no obvious reasons- i.e. your behaviour, your lack of attention to her, illness, job loss, etc. People use all kinds of excuses to justify cheating, and the one cheated on, is left to figure out what went wrong.

It is a devastating loss in many ways. Trust, is the main one. Without trust, there is no truth, and without truth, it is impossible to have honesty in a relationship that can build into something long term and meaningful.

When that 'bond' is broken, as it was, with your girlfriend deciding to cheat on you behind your back for so long, it is NOT your fault. It was not your behaviour, or actions, or decisions that led to you questioning all that has happened, because of HER choices.

Unless something obvious (you beat her regularly) for example, 'caused' her to seek comfort in another man, you might have reason to reflect on that, as being part of what caused her to cheat. But, there is nothing you did, or could have forseen, that could have prevented or stopped her, because she decided, and her alone, to go down that road.

Realize that it is over. And whether you are willing or wanting to accept it, she has made it clear that she wants nothing to do with you. She's doing you a favour, because if she were to snap her fingers, it sounds like you'd go running.

It is time to realize, as hard as it is, that you are more upset about the end of the relationship, than what the relationship really was all about in the first place.

Let go of this woman, and put an end to this chapter in your life. Even if she were with you now, she is hardly a woman of any scruples, to say the least, and eventually, it would have ended anyway with the choices she made behind your back for so long.

Better now than a few years down the road, with a mortgage and a couple of kids.

Thank you so Much
Thank you Thank you Thank you
I'm sorry but I really know all the things you told me but I can't do them.

Even first time in my life I was drunk last night and I feel so guilty myself
But I have made a promise to myself not to do so again... ever and never

I wanted to ruin her life by make a call to her family and tell everything about her because she has told them that I was after her and she don't wanted it.
But now I'll try to do as you sad to me because I understand that I have no importance in her life .NOW

Can you please tell me why she can't realize that she did sumthng wrong and want to show herself innocent in our friend circle

I don't want her back in my life seriously
But I am here on 'ASK ME' because I want the answer of my questions... WHY? What a girl want? Is love really happens? Why did she so?

No one can complaint about my behave?
I have a very busy schedule but she can't complain about my attention about her I was crazy about her.
I am physical fit not with a heavy body but an average body.
I have a good job according to my society.

WHAT IS THE REASON?

I really want to forget her I don't want her back in my life but I don't know why I am still crying for her even one month past.

Perhaps my friend, you like many of us, had been blinded of her true character by LOVE. Her sweet words and beauty attached you to her and built a world that could never be. You gave your heart to a person who neither deserved it, nor knew the proper way to appreciate it.

It's a lesson in life we all learn the hard way to looker longer and deeper into a person to see them as they are, and NOT who we want them to be, and examine closely if their sweet words and actions match. But we love them so much and try so hard to be good, that we assume they feel the same, and when it is revealed that they don't it hurts like hell.

Just think what kind of person could trample on another's heart this way? She was the kind that could, and it's a testament to HER character, NOT YOURS!While you were IN love, she was in love with the attention, and the idea of someone loving her, and was selfish and not honest with you, or herself.

In truth she is a liar, and cheater that never deserved a good guy like you.

In time you will heal, and do better, because we all have been where you are, and have gone on to do GREAT in our lives.

It could be that she was not physically attracted to you... but in this case it is not as important to ask WHY she cheated (and possibly cheated on the man she cheated with) nor should you try to dig up her new number, contact her, contact her family to get revenge or allow her to further ruin your health by drinking, obsessing, etc.

Don't do it!

If she was cheating on you for such a long time and lying about you to others then she was not the person you wished to see and you must pick up the pieces and move on with your life without trying to seek answers and dig into the past. The more distance you get from her/this topic the better for you. As someone else here said --- this doesn't speak about YOUR character, this speaks about hers.

Let it be enough to know that NOT all women act like this and there is someone else out there who is better for you.