If the probation officer ordered a no contact for my husband have no contact with me, and I had contacted my husband, what happens?

All depends on your probation officer. But you COULD be violated for this. All up to the discretion of your probation officer

He could go to jail for the entire term he would have received if he had not gotten probation; he could get additional time; he could be fined; he could be warned. The Probation Officer does NOT make that decision.

A Judge makes that decision.