I'm 21 years old, and I'm unemployed. My family's not there for me, except for my father (bare minimum). I've been through a lot of mental stresses, and It's taken a huge toll on me. I don't feel the same anymore, and my relationship's about to fail. I really care a lot about this man, and I don't want to lose him. Sometimes I find it hard to find things to talk about, simple things anything really. I know I'm depressed, and I want to conquer it and get better but without a job and my licenses suspended at the moment, I can't get it together and just do. It's really hard without a car and all the burden's been on my boyfriend. I found out he's been texting another girl from work, but they're just friends. I've been through this, and he and I are currently not together, just trying to work on things. But I feel this tremendous sadness, I'm scared I'll lose him and now I don't know what to do to get things going. I need some advice on making this relationship better, how to I get myself out of this funk and back to normal? I don't want to lose the last person I have left, he means a lot to me and is my best friend. We've been through a lot, almost a year and a half, and I know he cares and he even moved to NJ with me to get our lives better, but I haven't been able to get myself together. Please help!

One thing you might try is to look at your world a little differently. For one thing Im sure you can picture in your minds eye what sucsess looks like. Another thing is gratitude. Be grateful. Look around you at the colors and smells life is bringing you. Sure its little things but in the end they add up to a lot. When your grateful by nature others will gravitate toward you. Im not saying to ignore your experiences but you need to look closer at your surroundings. Many have it worse off. No matter how life throws you a curve there are tidbits upon reflection to be grateful for. Teach yourself to look for them. Soon you will turn your frown upside down. You will realize your unique and you have value. Try to keep a positive attitude.

Life is **** mate, hard and you are on your own, try your best, I am going though the same sort of thing, I know how you feel,

Will you say what licenses (or just one) are suspended, and why?
And what are you expecting from from family?
I understand all about being depressed with no job and no where to turn, but feel we need some more background.