I dated this guy for almost 3 years and we were crazy for each other. He has a child with another woman, that he had before he met me (so 5 years ago). He ignored his child's mother, basically through the whole relationship he and I had. I felt so powerful that he chose me over them. (Now I feel bad that he didn't spend time with his daughter during those years).

One problem. He was physically and emotionally abusive to me the entire relationship. Spit on me, slapped me, gave me a concussion, tried to run me over in his car, broke all my jewelry and computer, had surgery on his arm for hitting the ground because he was so mad at me, etc.

Anyway, he moved out of state after he graduated college and we broke up. It's been about 6 months we've been broken up and he has come in contact with me every so often; sending love songs, texting, meeting up, emailing, etc. etc. A few days ago, he proposed to his daughter's mother, yet about 2 weeks ago he was still coming in contact with me. His fiancé, to my understanding, has no idea he and I have been communicating since those two have been 'dating.'

I don't know what to think of him. I would never get back with him because of what he's put me through but why would he propose to this woman but was still trying to figure out what I was doing in my life and where I'm living? Will he abuse her, even though she has his daughter?

Who knows... but most importantly who cares??

You have broken up, it is time to move on, what she and he does is none of your business and is not your problem, I would be glad about that.

You escaped this crazy fool, she may not, but to think what happened to you hasn't already happened to her is a stretch. Maybe that's why they broke up before(?).

Sad she would date him now.

As irrelevant as this is, what he does is no longer your business. Stop torturing yourself and stop thinking about him. From the sounds of things, anyone with any sense of self respect would not let him treat them the way he treated you.

Don't reply to his texts/chats/emails. Don't contact him at all. Consider yourself lucky that you escaped a monster's clutches.

And essentially, when you <b>break up</b> with someone, what they do is not your business at all. So stop wondering about him too!