Hey all. I have never used one of these sites before so I am sorry if this is too long.

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for exactly two years. I just told my boyfriend for the umpteenth time today that we are not compatible and I think we should break up. I've told him this before, but every time he gets sad and I give in even though our relationship is far from perfect.

My biggest complaint is that he has never been much of an affectionate person. I understand most guys are not overly affectionate, but I can literally count on one hand the number of times we have kissed on the lips and we hardly ever have sex (twice a month IF I AM LUCKY). It's not like I'm ugly. I'm not conceited, but I know I'm not an ugly person, but when you're with someone like that it takes a toll on yourself esteem. I made him wait over a month before we had sex and in the beginning we would have sex almost every time I saw him... until he moved in with me. Then it all stopped. We could go 6 weeks at a time without it.

After the sex died down, I told him a number of times in the beginning that I think sex is important in a relationship, but his response was always, "Geez I didn't know you were a freak like that!" So, not I don't even initiate sex because I'm not going to beg for something I am not going to get.

My next biggest issue is that he is lazy. And I mean LAZY!! He expects me to do all the cooking, cleaning, and picking up after him. My own mama isn't expected to do these things from my dad, her husband, the man she's been married to for over 40 years!! The most he does is take the trash out and that takes him forever to do.

Also, he never wants to spend time with me. We don't even watch TV together. He'd rather skype with his friends all day. It's even to the point where 6 out of 7 nights a week we don't sleep in the same bed. I would think he was cheating, but he's always home so...

He has never worked a day since I have met him... wait I take that back. He had a job for 2 weeks in last fall, but he quit because it was a door to door job. It was the only job he could get due to today's economy and because he has not worked since 2008. Well, he felt like it was degrading and left me to continue to handle all of the bills and groceries. I have worked up until January of this year when I had to quit my job to study for the bar exam. So now we're both just sitting at home all day while I look online for jobs for both of us and it's really driving me crazy.

So as I mentioned I broke up with him yesterday. His car has been broken down since January so I let him borrow my car (dumb I know) so that he could get away from me for the day and so that I could think things through. I know he is not taking me seriously because I always change my mind after breaking up with him. According to him, he has no where to go and he cannot just move in with a friend. He also always tries to make me feel like I broke his heart, but I have given him two years to show me why he wants to be in this relationship and I still haven't seen it. Any guy would be thrilled to be with me. I am smart, funny as hell, pretty, and am not a selfish or mean person.

I know I have made the right decision, so I guess what I am really looking for is some support before he convinces me to change my mind again.

Well that guilt is what comes with dumping someone and you got to live with it. It is sort of your fault for staying with him that long and getting in too deep before ending things with him. Sure he is not the best companion and perhaps you two are not compatible with each other, if you want to leave you should do so immediately whether it be moving out yourself and not have contact with him anymore. It doesn't get any easier but if you don't, you ll only find yourself in the same predicament with more drama the next time around.

Stick to your guns and get some freedom and peace for yourself. I mean look at all that useless dead weight you just shed. Why take it back? Its worth some sadness to keep it off, right?

Thank you all.

He most definitely is not making life any easier.

I know it is my fault for letting things get this deep and I told him that, but he does not understand. I should not have changed my mind the first time I tried to break it off. Now he just takes for granted that I don't mean anything I say.

Talaniman - AMEN! That is exactly what I needed to hear. It is worth sadness to keep it off, but the only reason why I am sad is because he's acting like he's sad and it's making me feel like I just crushed someone's whole world. But you are right. And this type of sadness usually doesn't last forever.

No it doesn't because sad as it is, you WANT to get beyond this. Break ups no matter the circumstances always suck.

There will be sad, then perhaps anger and even self pity, that is how break ups work, couples seldom part on good terms

Break up then stop contact with him, don't talk, email or text, just break up, tell him it is over, and go

Go NO contact, if he can't talk to you, he can't convince you. You need to work on yourself control, if you cannot control yourself not getting back with someone then maybe you need to value yourself a little more.