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dukeyduke123
Apr 24, 2012, 05:35 PM
My mom is driving me crazy. When I come home she is always screaming about something very little. I watch my brother and sister 5 times a week and she still says I don't really do much to help her and she needs time for herself. But she goes out all the time for hours and hours and sometimes doesn't come back until 1 in the morning . She is always yelling and treating me unfair. I can't even go outside to hang out with my friends. I mean I'm 14 and I need to have time to. I feel like of this keeps going on I might just run away. Please give me some advice

Wondergirl
Apr 24, 2012, 05:43 PM
my mom is driving me crazy. when i come home she is always screaming about something very little. i watch my brother and sister 5 times a week and she still says i don't really do much to help her and she needs time for herself. but she goes out all the time for hours and hours and sometimes doesn't come back until 1 in the morning . she is always yelling and treating me unfair. I can't even go outside to hang out with my friends. i mean I'm 14 and i need to have time to. i feel like of this keeps going on i might just run away. please give me some advice
She always screams at you and is always unfair? You really watch your sibs five times a week? She goes out all the time until 1 a.m.

Where is your father?

Where would you run to?

dukeyduke123
Apr 24, 2012, 05:56 PM
Lately since my stepdad and her sort of separated she's been really angry. Usually I watch my sibs a lot. She doesn't come home until 1 a lot just sometimes less often than more. My dad doesn't live with me. But I spend the weekend with him every 2 week. I guess I would go to my grandmas house or go to somebodies house I don't know

dukeyduke123
Apr 24, 2012, 05:57 PM
I mean she comes home at 1 not often but sometimes

Wondergirl
Apr 24, 2012, 05:59 PM
If you leave home, your mom would call the police and have you brought back.

Why not take her aside and talk with her?

Chardel
Apr 24, 2012, 06:11 PM
I think you just nailed it yourself, right there where you said that your Mom and Step-dad separated and she seems angry... You are right she probably is... and I'll bet that she really isn't a mean person and she does not want you to run away... In fact she is probably angry, confused and scared... she is now on her own with ALL of the responsibility of being an Mom, Dad, bread winner, and primary care giver... All of that is a bit scary... I can say that because I have been there done that... When it happened to me I also had a 14 year old boy who I asked to look after his siblings, three of them quite a bit younger than him... I didn't really yell at him a lot but when I realized just exactly how much responsibility I had shoved on him I stopped and talked to him about it... Then he was the one doing the yelling. I deserved that... Give your Mom some time, she will get over this and get back to some semblance of normal. Fighting and threats will get you no where, she is counting on you to get through this rough patch, not fair I know, you are only 14, but she is only human and if she feels that you are mature enough to handle this then you should be proud of yourself. After all would your Mom leave the care of her children to just anyone?Life will get better... enjoy your time with your Dad, be patient.