View Full Version : I'm confused about dating two guys.. . I need help please?
CeliaNyree222
Apr 24, 2012, 11:30 AM
Ok here is my little story. I'm a little flirtatious for the simple fact that I've been sigle for about three years. I have a cute friend I mess with every time I'm drunk. He is really nice deep down inside but usually plays around and acts like he's a complete A**. He gets upset because I act like a b**** when he's around but I thougt we both came to an agreement on how we play? Ok the second guy is a dj and he is out there plus the fact he is bi. I don't mind because I am really open minded. Problem is my friends don't approve of him. He makes me happy and he is really nice to me. He is really understanding as well. My problelm is I slept with both guys.. . When I slept with my friend he didn't use protection so I may be at risk of being pregnant. He kept trying to convince me to be happy and that he can help me with the baby but I kind of want to be with Austin the dj. He treats me right, we never fight and when I told him about my situation he didn't complain he just understood me. We almost have the same history so that's the reason why we don't fight. I feel bad because I told my friend Loui about my situation and he got really upset. Now that I think about it I feel really bad because now I see how strong he feels for me. I'm not so sure what to do. I really need help. I Have never been in this spot before and from what I have heard people tell me to go for the second one because something about if I really liked the first one I would have never cheated but I never did cheat becase I'm not serious with eather on of them and I just started talking to both of them last year. What do I do?
JudyKayTee
Apr 24, 2012, 02:14 PM
What do you do about what? Having the baby, not having the baby?
Something else?
Go where you heart leads you - you can't possibly love them equally.
Wondergirl
Apr 24, 2012, 02:38 PM
when I slept with my friend he didn't use protection so I may be at risk of being pregnant.
If you really are pregnant, then what? Both guys are willing to be a "daddy"?
CeliaNyree222
Apr 24, 2012, 03:30 PM
The baby isn't the problem. I'm just not sure on who to commit my time to. They both have a great persona but I'm just afraid to get hurt. I've been married twice so its really hard to trust men. I see the good in them and the bad.. . Wich isn't that bad lol They are both what I have been looking for and I'm afraid to let go of ether one of them. They already met, Austin was flirting with Loui and Loui didn't say anything about me kissing Austin because he knows we're not together. Austin is neutral so he doesn't mind me going home with Loui since he knows Loui is a really close friend to all my roommates. Ugh! I'm sorry you all, I just have so many questions that my close friends can't answer. I know I'm putting myself in a bad situation so I don't know but I'm beginning to think I should stop taking to both of them and just give it time to see who really cares for me? Please help?
CeliaNyree222
Apr 24, 2012, 03:32 PM
@wonder girl
Yes they are
Fr_Chuck
Apr 24, 2012, 03:50 PM
Sounds more like a drinking problem than a dating problem if you mess with one only when you are drunk
But why do you have to choose either, if you can not decide then don't keep dating both till you can decide
CeliaNyree222
Apr 24, 2012, 03:59 PM
Drinking four times a month isn't a problem :(
Is it?
Wondergirl
Apr 24, 2012, 04:00 PM
Drinking four times a month isn't a problem :(
Is it?
"every time I'm drunk"??
CeliaNyree222
Apr 24, 2012, 04:24 PM
Lol true but now I can't drink so.. . It doesn't matter does it?
I'll be in my full senses and I'll be able to make smart decisions.
I'll just keep away from both until I feel ready and if ether one moves on and forgets about me then that shows they weren't meant to be.
Right?
JudyKayTee
Apr 24, 2012, 05:45 PM
And I agree with Wisegirl15 - applause and a "helpful."
You don't know who you are. This is not a good time to decide who that unknown person should be with.
And, yes, if you make stupid decisions when you drink you have a drinking problem.
Homegirl 50
Apr 26, 2012, 03:23 AM
Who you should be with is the least of your problems if you're pregnant. You are going to need to concentrate on yourself and the baby you might have.
If you're not pregnant, I say leave them both alone. You don't know who you want.